Why There’s No Such Thing as Casual Sex

There’s no such thing as casual sex.

I was reflecting on this idea of what people commonly call casual sex, which is pretty much most sex these days it seems,  and it occurred to me when someone sticks their most intimate part of their body into my most intimate part of my body, that’s not casual on any level. Not for either person. Just because so many times people hardly know each other before they decide to get naked and explore each other’s genitals in one form or another, doesn’t mean that it isn’t something that  affects us profoundly, and on layers and levels of our psyches and souls that we can’t fathom consciously.

I recently wrote a blog post about the wisdom and vulnerability of the vagina that has been making the rounds and many of you may have read it. If you haven’t, when you finish this one you should check it out in the archives here.   It speaks in great detail to this idea for women in particular, so go check it out after you read this post.

So let’s explore how it is even conceivably possible that genital contact is casual. We can extend it to oral sex but the place where I find it most compelling to examine is of course in intercourse.

How could the merging of these two anatomical components of human existence that create new human existence be called casual in any sense? Seriously, stop and think about this. Ladies, any time you sleep with a man, any time you allow him to enter you, you have just had an intimate experience. If this man is a stranger, you basically have just participated in your own home invasion, LOL.

Guys, when you don’t know this woman, you really are using her as a receptacle, as a vehicle for your own pleasure, not saying that a woman may not be doing the exact same thing because that, after all, is the general intention in casual sex but, guys, come on, you protect your precious family jewels and then you just willy-nilly, (I really didn’t intend that pun, but let’s go with it), you find yourself inside  a stranger with your most vulnerable asset aside from your heart. You’re literally inside a woman’s body, one with her for all intents and purposes, and you’re going to tell me that’s casual? And why don’t you have enough self-respect to think with the head on your shoulders instead of the one in your pants?

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Why There’s No Such Thing as Casual Sex

About The Author
- GINA CLOUD is a passionate woman and creator of GinaCology.com, a deeply devoted teacher, author, speaker, Natural Beauty and Life Coach, an expert on women’s issues, avid tango dancer, and single mother of a daughter. GinaCology, the overarching concept behind all her work, teaches Gina’s self-created and self-lived principles. Gina has been a guest on many radio programs including Playboy Radio, and is the former host of her own radio show, with over 150 episodes. Gina published her first book: W.O.M.A.N., A New Definition in 2009. She has also been featured as an expert guest on The Ricki Lake Show in September 2012. Gina is also a passionate and inspirational speaker who loves to share her knowledge and wisdom so that all women can love the bodies they live in and love themselves from the inside out. She is passionate about information as it relates to our lives as women, and finding ways to honor and celebrate the feminine wisdom, power and sexuality we possess, as well as helping men and women come together in relationships that honor and celebrate our inherent differences.