3. Give Yourself A Hand

Wrap your hand around the shaft, mouth over the head of the penis.  Use your hand to stroke in the same direction as your mouth is moving.  This allows you to cover more ground, increasing the total sensation, making the act more pleasurable, as well as efficient.  Use a little pressure, but not a death grip, more like a light handshake (no need to literally choke the chicken).  I like to begin by licking the head with my hand around the base, then using my hand to spread saliva over the entire penis.  Why is this important?  Because…

4. Wetter Is Better

Head should be wet, the sensation of lips smoothly gliding over skin can be ruined by cottonmouth, so hydrate beforehand.  A warm, wet mouth is like a free beach house, it’s where our pink parts want to spend their summers, because genitalia rarely chooses to vacation in the desert.  Take a water break if you need (don’t break hand contact, though, maintain momentum), or, if you’re a gambler, try my trick of taking the penis deep enough down the throat to lightly gag, which produces more saliva (don’t question why, because the answer is kinda gross, unless you’re into Roman showers…).

5. Make A Little Noise

Not a lot, not none.  Resist being naive like I was in my early 20’s, fooled by the term “hummer”, you needn’t buzz like a bee from start to finish.  A little moan here and there provides an added tingle, both physically as well as mentally.  It reinforces that you’re enjoying yourself by giving this pleasure, as well as adding an actual vibration that feels nice to most people.

“Most people” is actually a great way to transition into my send off.  The tips I’ve given you are good places to start.  They have been effective for me with most partners, but people do have unique preferences, and nothing sexual is ever one-size-fits-all, so don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner.  Ask if the pressure is ok, because maybe they like being sucked on with all the force required for a McDonald’s milkshake, but don’t want to come off like they’re looking a gift horse in the mouth (a more perfect use for that phrase has never existed).  And oral sex is absolutely a gift, don’t think otherwise, and don’t deny yourself the self-satisfactory pat-on-the-back of a job well done as you watch the recipient’s joy during the unwrap.  Good job!  High-five!  You did it, score one for team BJ!