Emotional Space

Now, allow me to worry and think about every possible thing that could go wrong. What if it turns out our current situation is perfect and messing with it wouldn’t necessarily take us to a deeper level in our relationship but instead make us think how nice it would be to have the option to go back to our own apartments at the end of the day. Maybe that’s a big part of what makes our relationship work. I am moody and depressive at times. Sometime’s I get depressed, and all I want is to lay on him in bed. Sometimes I get incredibly irritable and want nothing more but to be alone in my room and not be touched or kissed or doted on. I don’t doubt that people can naviagte these situations while living together; people learn to give one another emotional space when they can’t give physical space. My fear? I don’t ever want to be in a place where I’m frustrated and upset and I can’t wait to go back to my own apartment and then I realize “oh shit, that’s not a thing anymore.” I really do value my autonomy. Is saving two hundred dollars worth creating new problems in my relationship?

If any of the things I’ve mentioned above were to happen, I don’t doubt for one second it’s something that would pass and we could get through. I’d still rather avoid it, however. Maybe they wouldn’t even come up and I’m worrying for no reason because that’s what I tend to do.

When Is the Right Time?

Finances aside, how do you know when it’s the right time? Is there even a right time? In my humble opinion, nope. Plain and simple. If you need to move in with someone because you’re dead broke, do it. If you’re broke, but you can still make it work, but you’d like to move in with your significant other anyways, do it. Move in with them. Maybe that’s just the little shove in the right direction you needed, who knows. If you’re broke and paying rent but also a young anxious woman who over thinks everything and is terrified of rocking the boat, don’t. At least, not because of money. I’m not going to make that decision because I’d prefer to have more disposable income, although it’s tempting. If we decide to move in together, then we decide to move in together. Having extra cash will be a bonus, but not the deciding factor.

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