Let’s learn a few intriguing ways of coming into passionate aliveness right now!

First, practice deep breathing to build feeling, thus opening the pathways to heal the cell tissue and the mind. Use your deep breathing to build your sexual response. Inhale fresh aliveness and new, sparkly, stimulating life-force to your nerve receptors. Exhale, intentionally moving the numbness out like wind clears smog.

Now uplevel with some deep breathing into your pelvis. You can do this while just sitting and reading. Inhale, bearing down using the same muscles that you use to evacuate your bowels. Tune into the subtle sensation of feeling sitbones moving and genitals, perineum, and anus pressing into whatever you’re sitting on — chair or floor. Do this for at least five breaths as it takes a while to disperse numbness. Check out how sensation changes with each breath. Stay feeling what’s happening, not thinking about it!

If you have more space and privacy, breathe into your pelvis while in a hip opening pose. Start with Baddha Konasana done lying on your back. Lie down. Bend your knees, feet together. With the outside edges of the feet together, relax your legs out to the side in a diamond shape.

Then place your hands on your genitals to help you direct your breath. Be compassionate with yourself. If this is scary, give yourself more time (10-20 breaths) to breathe through the fear. Disperse the fear just like you did the numbness. Get curious about what’s the next layer behind the fear. Use this exercise to clear the backlog of emotional baggage (numbness, fear, shutdown, trauma, lousy teachings about sexuality etc), teaching your pelvis how to respond authentically to new and wonderful sensations.