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- Choose your moment; women need to be in the mood for sex.
- Slow and steady often wins the race.
- Shower sex washes away natural lubrication and can get awkward; practice on dry land first.
- Try leaning back whilst thrusting; it’s instantly improve the angle & feeling for her.
- There is no one perfect position. Some women like doggy style, others like missionary. Find out what she likes best.
- Laugh. Bodies make noises so turn any awkwardness into part of the fun,
- Use a condom!
- Explore her body; sensitive areas like her neck, he ear lobes & her inner thighs.
- Communicate. If you want to try something new, tell your partner, don’t be shy.
- Sex is much better on top of the covers NOT under the. Throw that bedcover on the floor. NOW!!!
- Use a pillow to prop up her hips for added stimulation.
- If she says she’s about to come….. don’t stop.
- Eat watermelon – it’s a natural viagra.
- Not every woman wants you to go down on her. Let’s not assume.
- Being naked is nerve-wracking in front of someone you like. Be complimentary.
- Massage the area around her clitoris. The clitoris is incredibly sensitive – pressing it will be uncomfortable. This way you indirectly stimulate her internal clitoris – science y’all!
- Don’t assume she likes doggy style. Ask her first!
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How Healthy is Masturbation. Can it Make a Difference to Your Sex Life?
It’s a really healthy thing. It releases great endorphins and chemicals into our bodies that help us to feel happier, to feel more creative, to feel braver. It lifts depression and helps with headaches and period cramps.
Smith said masturbation is an important way for women to learn about their own bodies and what they enjoy. She encouraged women to “relax into self love”.
“Carve out a little bit of time and prioritise this because it affects your health, your mental wellbeing and your relationships, both with yourself and with others,” she said. “It’s a really important thing, yet it comes last on our list when we’re knackered and we’ve fallen into bed.”
Smith joined physiotherapist Maeve Whelan, who specialises in women’s health at Milltown Physiotherapy in Dublin, for a conversation about painful sex, the importance of pelvic floor muscles and what all women can do to improve their sex lives.
According to Whelan, there are a number of physiological and emotional reasons women might experience pain during sex.
Smith said: “I don’t know of many women who have an issue with pain that they can do nothing about.”
Also in the sex episode, a discussion about how Irish cultural, educational and social history has shaped women’s sex lives.
Joining that discussion were Dr Mel Duffy, head of the only master’s degree programme in sexuality studies in the country at Dublin City University; Shawna Scott, owner of Sex Siopa, Ireland’s health and design-focused online sex shop; and Hot Press sex columnist Anne Sexton.
According to Sexton, some of the “cultural and economic reasons for prudery and repression” include the country’s Victorian roots, the famine’s strain on the population and the Catholic Church.
The panel also talked about the lack of quality sex education for young people.
“On the one hand, there’s an incredibly massive, overwhelming porn culture which all young people have some experience of. And on the other hand, you have this culture of horrific stories of abuse. There are very few positive messages about sex, and that’s really worrying,” Sexton said.
Also in the podcast, sexual intimacy therapist and Irish Times advice columnist Trish Murphy discussed common sex problems she encounters in her practice and what people can do about them.
The Women’s Podcast question of the week is: Are you making New Years resolutions? If so, what are they? If not, why not?
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Why 50/50 Relationships Don’t Work
The idea of an equal relationship is nice in theory, but it doesn’t work in reality.
The truth is, there’s no way of knowing how much someone loves you. You’ll never know for sure how somebody really feels about you. All relationships are inherently unequal, even in friendships. This would’ve bothered me years ago, but I learned awhile back that this was purely due to my pride and not because there was anything that was actually wrong with this concept.
For a long time, I was worried that I wasn’t pulling my weight in my relationship. Part of me still worries about that. I think about how much more money my girlfriend makes, how she has given me a home, and how she has stuck with me throughout my transition into a woman.
I think about how unfair it must be for her, how I haven’t done enough to make her happy.
But in doing so, I’ve done nothing except cause myself pain, and it also makes her unhappy to hear me being so cruel about myself. She tries to reassure me that I do pull my weight by cooking and cleaning, by taking care of her needs, and by being her emotional support. She says that when I downplay my contributions to our relationship, I’m “score-keeping,” which she very much dislikes.
There is an example of score-keeping in the movie The Joy Luck Club, which features a relationship between Harold and Lena, a couple who splits everything right down the middle. Harold is all about “fairness.” For instance, he labels everything in the refrigerator as either his or hers, and he keeps track of how much everything costs. This causes a get strain in their relationship, and they end up splitting apart because of this.
Stress Relief and Self Pleasure …How to Reap the Benefits
Personally, I’m not particular about when I masturbate, but I would say it’s most often at night, just before I go to bed.
Everyone has a different masturbation routine. Some do it daily, some weekly, some in the morning, some in public bathrooms … the list goes on. No matter when, where, or how you do it, there are so many positive effects of masturbating — and it’s fun! It can help you stay in touch with yourself and your sexuality, and is also an extremely satisfying way to pass the time. Whether you’re horny, frustrated, stressed, or just plain bored, masturbation will always be there for you.
Personally, I’m not particular about when I masturbate, but I would say it’s most often at night, just before I go to bed. This is partially out of convenience; I sleep naked, so of course it’s easy to make that transition to sexy-time when I’m already lying in bed sans clothes. There’s almost nothing more exciting after a long day than the thought of crawling into my giant, comfy bed, where my vibrator is patiently waiting for me.
Even if you’re typically a morning orgasm kind of person, consider switching to a nighttime routine to reap some of these awesome benefits. The worst thing that can happen is more orgasms; and come on, how bad can that be?
1. Better Sleep
Releasing endorphins is a well-known way to help you relax, which is why working out regularly helps you sleep better and more deeply. Sure, sex is physically exhausting in and of itself, but the act of having an orgasm can also cause sleepiness. If you’re anticipating a toss-and-turn kind of night, it might behoove you to consider having an O before you start counting sheep. Bonus: If you have long-term issues with sleeping, masturbation may also help with insomnia!
2. Stress Relief
Is there anything worse than going to bed with your head full of negative, stress-filled thoughts? For a quick fix, treating yourself to some me-time before bed will release chemicals like endorphins (mentioned above), as well as dopamine. The combination of the two can make for some seriously stress-free slumber. That feeling of euphoric pleasure is sure to wipe away any nasty residual stress from your day.
3. Sexy Dreams
This may be a long shot, but if you spend some quality time concentrating hard on a sexy scenario, you may be fortunate enough to have that situation, person, or feeling reflected in your dreams. Just lay back, relax, and think about Ryan Gosling (or whoever, I guess) while you pleasure yourself. If you’re #blessed, you’ll see him again in your dreams all night long. Who wouldn’t want to wake up with those memories fresh in mind? Talk about waking up on the right side of the bed!
4. Treat Yo’ Self
What more reason do you need? If it’s been an especially long, grueling day at work or school, think of a late-night pre-zzz’s masturbation session as the perfect reward for all your hard work. At the end of the day, masturbation is all about self-love. If you’re feeling down, who’s to say that you can’t offer yourself a sexy pick-me-up? You do you, girl.
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