Ladies, remember this as well, we take a man into our physical bodies. Literally. There is a deep vulnerability in that. Shouldn’t you think carefully about the quality of the man you say yes to, and who you allow to pass through this very sacred portal?

Life moves in and out of us vaginally, whether we are giving birth, menstruating or having sex. I wonder how many of you have stopped to consider this idea, and in considering it now, does it hit you viscerally? I hope so.

And men, please ponder that for a long moment.

For you guys reading this, a few words for you. Based on the coaching work I’ve done with men, which has all been around sexuality, I’ve learned that you, too, long for intimacy, even when you can’t and won’t say it. I’ve often said that when you look at a woman and feel like you want her sexually only, that’s just conditioning.

Societally and biologically in part, you’re pushed in the direction of that singular sexual drive, as you’re taught that is one way you prove you’re a man, but when you REALLY feel satisfied with a woman, it’s not from the actual sex or the orgasm, it’s from her WANTING YOU AND OPENING TO YOU. When that happens, you are fed in places beyond your biology. I know this from these men and from the men in my own life that I’ve had intimate relationships with.

But men and women are afraid of this deeper energy, of these polarities and frequencies that open you up. When men and women have orgasms from this kind of connection, it brings about healing and realignment in your physical body.

Sex heals. Marvin Gaye had it right…

So ladies, that feeling of dissatisfaction that so many of you are experiencing around your sexuality is a messenger. It’s an awakening for you to trust that and to allow your true, deep, intense sexual energy to surface so that you can allow that energy to nourish you in your own life first, and to find sexual partners who are seeking to be blessed by this energy with you.

And in the meantime, as you cultivate a relationship with your own sexuality from this authentic place, you gift yourself with this powerful energy which can be used in your daily life, especially as a force for creating that which you desire. Know that you are not damaged or broken or dysfunctional. It’s time to trust your inner guidance to lead you to that awakening and the sexual healing inherent in embracing your own powerful sexual energy.