3. You settle for a man who doesn’t absolutely do it for you in bed.
When a woman is truly into a man, she’ll do almost anything for him. The idea of pleasing him fills her with joy. She craves him physically to the point where she can’t sit still with thoughts of him.
It may be true that that level of intensity doesn’t last forever, but what are you expecting down the road if your level of attraction is lukewarm from the beginning? Intimacy is the most important element of a romantic relationship. Period.
It’s the primary thing that distinguishes your relationship from all others in your life. You can have every other element with friends or family, but it’s with him that you can bare your body and soul.
And let’s be honest: if he rocks your world in the bedroom, you can easily overlook that he sometimes forgets to take out the trash.
4. You bombard us with social media and technology.
Set aside the Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and other social media. Women need to stop creating an alternative universe — a fantasyland — if they hope to have a rewarding relationship.
Honestly, do you really think spending hours reading about other people’s trips to the grocery store, or looking at pictures of people’s pets, or reading recipes you’ll never attempt truly improves your life?
Stop watching how everyone else is living and start writing your own story, and living your own life. Every time we look over at you and you’re on Facebook, we move further away from you emotionally, every single time.
5. You fail to understand and embrace what interests the man in your life.
Not so much what, but why a particular thing interests him so much. If you can understand and embrace his interests before you get too far down the line, you’ll be able to share his passion.
If not, you’ll be embarking on a life where you both look outside the relationship for satisfaction. You’ll be existing in each others presence, but not truly living life together.
For example, his passion may be watching football games on the weekends. You may hate watching football, so why in the world would you commit to a man whose hobby will occupy your entire weekends for a good part of your life? On the flip side, if you understand and appreciate the value of why he loves football, you might have a shot.
This is my abbreviated analogy on women and relationships:
Women start relationships by figuratively offering up 100 slices of pizza to her partner. Every time a man disappoints her, it’s like removing a slice. And women are very different than men; they don’t forget disappointments (slices removed).
Eventually, so many slices have been removed that they’re ready to ask for the check on the relationship. Funny thing is, they’ll stay and watch us eat (disappoint) a ton of slices, but they’ve actually checked out on us.
The question remaining: How many slices must be removed before she literally walks out?
Ladies, don’t commit to a man if you’re down several slices right out of the gate. You’ll save yourself a ton of misery if you ask for the check early on.
Curated by Erbe