When that’s not working. Go back to therapy together.

Be able to laugh at yourselves.

Don’t blame. Take ownership.

Let old shit go.

Sometimes it’s not fair, but it will all balance out in the end.

Be proud of your spouse and tell them so.

Saying stressful things in a funny or silly voice can really break the tension.

Either grow together or grow apart.

Figure out how to compromise without compromising who you are i.e. don’t be a doormat if that feels terrible to you.

It’s annoying to bicker, but it’s also not the end of the world.

Reassure your kids that you completely love and are fully committed to each other, particularly if they hear you bicker, which undoubtedly they will.

Sweeping things under the rug is a recipe for disaster.

Always remember, you chose each other.

Accepting your spouse completely for who they are (even the stuff that drives you nuts) is the ultimate pathway to happiness and preservation…

Because resentment murders relationships like nothing else.

Love your spouse even when you don’t like them.

Never threaten divorce unless you 100% mean it.

Love unconditionally.