‘I put on stockings and pink knickers as a surprise’
PARTY organiser Juel Stokes, 48, and her music producer husband Jerome, 49, of Brondesbury Park, North West London, have been together for eight years and have no kids. Sex had fizzled to a few times a month, Juel admitting she fusses over housework more than her fella. Here is her report:
JAN 1: On New Year’s Eve we crashed at 10pm. But Jerome is American so drags me out of bed at 5am to celebrate New Year via satellite from New York, and after that we go back to bed. Spurred on by our resolution, we begin to make love. It is wonderful. I feel so happy and relaxed afterwards and didn’t worry about my saggy bits once. Usually to feel ready for sex I think I have to look my best – a bath, hair washed and styled, make-up and pretty underwear. But Jerome loves me as I am.
JAN 2: I wake up really horny, which I haven’t for ages. I made a vow to myself to be more sexy for Jerome and not spend time at home in a scruffy bathrobe, wielding a hoover. So while he is out I put on stockings and pretty pink underwear. He loves pink knickers. When he gets back I surprise him – and we make love in the living room for the first time in years.
JAN 3: We go to bed early and snuggle into each other’s arms. I initiate a chat about sex. I am more adventurous about wanting to try new sex positions, while Jerome is quite traditional. He’s probably more ready for sex than I am. But once I am in the mood, I am really up for it. I don’t want to shock him or turn him off, though. We talk very openly about what we want and then make love – with the sex spiced up by our conversation.
Sex had fizzled out for Jerome and Juel Jon Bond
JAN 4: We are exhausted after Christmas and New Year and, after doing some housework, flop on to the sofa. We cuddle and kiss. We don’t have full sex, as we are tired. But we gaze into each other’s eyes and I give Jerome a back massage. Just touching each other is nearly as good as sex.
JAN 5: When Jerome gets home from work I’ve been thinking about sex all day and feel very horny. But I practically have to jump on him to get him in the mood. I say we can’t let the resolution slip, as we already had a day off. With a sigh, he takes me in his arms and we go to bed. Once we get going, it is fantastic.
JAN 6: Having more sex is having a marked effect. When Jerome talks to me he really looks into my eyes and we touch each other a lot more and laugh at silly jokes. He’s late back from work tonight, too tired for sex and falls into bed and to sleep. I lie awake frustrated and think how work gets in the way of sex. When we’re on holiday our sex life goes through the roof.
JAN 7: Jerome is out all morning and I am working from home, so plan the stockings and underwear trick again. I open the door to Jerome in a pretty dressing-gown, with sexy underwear underneath. It works so well we have sex twice. We haven’t done that for years.
— JUEL SAYS: We are going to keep this up. You have to keep the fire burning and this has definitely rekindled our spark.
— JEROME SAYS: It has been fantastic. I feel like a kid again and it’s lovely to see Juel so happy. I realise she does want me – she was just tired and maybe a bit shy about her body.
Curated by Erbe
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