Beyond the Two Questions…

And, what Isadora offers is the logical progression from Page’s two questions on your quest to fulfilling sex: tailor-make your sex life, there are no two people who are alike, so drop the by-the-rule-book laws of sexual gratification which presume all women are the same and all men are the same.

“Human beings are each unique creatures and nothing is more individual than sexual predilections and pleasures,” she explains.

But people do not come with instruction manuals, and – while some have tried to write the book on good sex – there’s no one-stop shop to better sex. Isadora’s advice is simple, and comes down to one thing: pay attention.

That’s it. Pay attention to your body and your partners. Stop thinking about your wobbly bits (or his), and – in the spirit of mindfulness – try to focus on your own an your partner’s responses.

While Isadora is talking about body language stuff – small movements, breathes – you can actually ask. But not all people are sex-talkers. If you are paying attention to the body language you will find your answer soon enough.

“If ever actions speak louder than words,” says Isadora, “it’s the body language of a partner during sexual arousal.”

So what are the psychological steps to a satisfying, safe, sublime sex life? Pay attention to your partners needs and your own, and strive for that deeper connection: there’s no manual for meaningful sex, but there is a way of thinking which helps.

Curated by Erbe
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