6. Both partners are not equally active: Sex is fun when both partners get into the act, tease each other, explore each other, kiss, bite, hug and then get into the act. But if it is either one of you who is trying to call the shots all alone with the other just being a log in bed, something is missing in your relationship. Probably it isn’t even satisfying sex.

7. It gets over in a matter of minutes or seconds: Ok, we agree that you aren’t going to rock all night. But if your act just gets over in a few minutes or seconds it’s time you ask yourself what you were doing in bed.

8. It makes you tired, not satisfied: All’s well that ends well isn’t true in this case. Even after having an orgasm, if you feel more tired than satisfied or exhilarated, then you surely need to think about your sex-equation with your partner.

9. The act is not selfless: Love-making, like love, is selfless. If you are not taking that extra step to please, arouse and tease your partner in bed then it’s lust.

10. You don’t cuddle after the act: The best way to know if you are making love or having sex is what you do after the act. If you just turn your back and sleep after experiencing an orgasm and don’t cuddle with each other then probably love is missing in all your actions.

Curated by Erbe
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