5. Don’t be friends
I know it’s hard because “you were so close” and “he knows you so well” but you can’t be friends, at least not right away. Getting over the death of your romantic relationship with him is going to take some grieving time. If you try to be friends right away, it’s just going to cause a lot of confusion and backpedaling. Give yourself the chance to find some closure and move on before you try to repair the friendship. Once it’s been a while and you know you won’t feel like ripping your heart out of your chest every time you see him, then you can consider getting coffee.
6. Don’t waste your time pouting
As much as we all want to stay in bed and wait for him to call and ask for you back, chances are, it’s not going to happen, and you will have wasted prime closure time. The first step is doing something that makes you feel good. Have a girl’s night, go to the gym, buy a new book, get your nails done; just do something that focuses on you. Try to make the most of this time, it’s your turn to be selfish. You will be thankful later.
7. Don’t convince yourself you are going to be alone forever
Chances are, you feel like the least wanted person on the planet at this moment, and you figure you’re destined to be a lonely old maid for the rest of your life. Here’s the thing: no matter how old you are, there is always the possibility of finding love. You will not end up alone, and this is not the end of the world. Acknowledge that this guy didn’t work out for a reason and you’ll find someone worthy of your charm in the future. Life isn’t over, so don’t let yourself give up on love.
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8. Take a deep breath
It’s over, so there is no point in dwelling on it forever. You are smart, you are capable, and you have the strength to get past this little speed bump in the road of life. The future is so much brighter than you think right now. So cry because it’s over and smile because it happened. Learn from this experience, take a deep breath, and keep going.
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