Social Butterfly …What to Expect When Dating One

The life of the party. A social butterfly. Always on the go. If these expressions describe your partner, then you are dating an extrovert.

Your extrovert partner brings energy and enthusiasm into your life – and the energy can feel invigorating, but it can also be draining. To keep your footing (and your sanity) in the relationship, it can help to have an understanding of how extroverts operate – and what you can expect when you’re paired with one. Here are a few tips:

1. Be prepared for lots of activity and plenty of company.

Extroverts are typically talkative and thrive on being around lots of people. They are gregarious and can be quite engaging.

2. Be attentive to your reactions to your partner’s social nature.

If you are sensitive to rejection, it’s important to keep in mind that their drive to get out and about with others isnot about getting away from you. Extroverts recharge by being with others. And when others are drawn to them, this doesn’t mean that they are being – or will be – unfaithful. So, if their social nature makes you uncomfortable or anxious, make sure to keep the lines of communication open as a way to ease your concerns.

3. You may need to create the opportunity for a deeper connection.

Extroverts can be so busy that they don’t slow down enough to allow for thoughtful communication or mutually savored moments. You may not feel truly heard or have a sense that they are sharing from deep within. So, to deepen your relationship, you might sometimes want to encourage quieter moments – such as a candle-lit dinner – along with discussions that reveal intimate thoughts and feelings.