7. Declutter your life.

Delete the shows from your DVR that you’re never going to watch. Delete toxic friends from your social scene and boys from your heart. Stop calling those organized piles of crap “organized,” and put your stuff where it belongs (*and it may belong in the dumpster. Don’t end up on Hoarders).

8. Create an Outward Bound type self-challenge —

maybe not to the extent of Cheryl Strayed in Wild — but, a surfing or sailing lesson.

9. Donate your time.

Re-allocate a few of your Facebooking hours to volunteering somewhere, like an animal shelter, so you can “accidentally” come home with a puppy.

10. Stop going on “dates” that aren’t really dates.

“Hanging out” is not a date. Neither is watching a guy drink beer and play video games with his friends. That “friends with benefits” situation will eventually lead to having one less friend and no benefits, and you will still be single. Try taking yourself on a date instead!

11. Start saving change…

from your couch, car and the bottom of your purse for your dream trip to Bali (or just buy a Bali bra. Supes comfs, ladies!)

12. Decide how you feel about having kids.

Do you want to be 8 months pregnant at your wedding? Have one kid, or six? Or be that lady I see hiking Runyon Canyon every day, pushing her cat in a stroller instead of a baby? It’s all good, just marry someone who wants the same thing.

13. Learn how to walk in heels and wear red lipstick; but, also learn to have the confidence to go out without any make-up on.

Learn how to take a compliment but, more importantly, that you don’t need a compliment to feel good about yourself.

14. Learn how to say “no.”

NO. That’s it! You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Stop apologizing for yourself. Just, NO.

15. More importantly, learn how to say “yes.”

No one said it better than Aibileen in The Help: “You is kind. You is smart. You is important.” You deserve to be happy! Figure out what makes you happy and go for it, whether it’s pursuing a career in comedy, ending an unhealthy relationship, or going on a date with a guy who wears black knee socks with shorts (*All of these decisions were the happiest choices I’ve made in my life, and led me to meeting my fiance).

Curated by Erbe
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