We must recognize there’s a difference between being selfish and simply being in tune to our needs. Selfish acts of living are not the same as self-loving acts of being. When we are in tune to our needs, our wants, our big dreams and our silly, frivolous pleasures, we feel more joyful, more positive and more fulfilled.
That’s a wonderful thing.
There’s another benefit to tending to ourselves first, though. When we are energized and content it’s easier for us to care for others and give in a loving spirit. The energy we extend to ourselves and to the world is constantly being reflected back on us. This means when we love ourselves, without terms or conditions, the door opens for others to do the same.
Loving ourselves in a natural, non-selfish way attracts more love, more happiness and more opportunities to spread love to those around us.
Of course there are substantial ways we can care for ourselves. Maybe the way you show love to yourself is by setting aside time every day that is only for you. Maybe you take a vacation as often as possible.
But random acts of self-love can more commonly be found in the little, day-to-day moments when you don’t think, you just do. Maybe that means treating yourself to your favorite meal, reading with a cup of tea, making the time for an invigorating work-out, or simply extending the same kindness, love and forgiveness to yourself that you so readily give to others.
It’s the little pleasures and the little acts of love that can add up to more satisfying, happier, positive-filled days. You wouldn’t think twice about doing it for someone else, so don’t think, question or doubt your intentions for yourself.
Continue to give random acts of kindness for others throughout your days. But while you are doing that, don’t forget to give a random act of self-love to yourself.
Except, try not to make it random. Try to make acts of self-love a habit.
In doing so, random acts of self-love, like acts of kindness, will eventually come to you naturally, without effort or much thought.
Curated by Erbe