‘I had forgotten how lovely morning sex is’
DANCER Sara Parker, 22 and her roofer husband Daniel, 23, live in Romford, Essex, with their five-year-old daughter. Their sex life had been dwindling due to tiredness and they were bickering. Here’s Sara’s 2016 so far:
JAN 1: We slump on the sofa in the evening, tired from the New Year celebrations. But Daniel turns to me and says: “Remember the resolution!” That makes me laugh then we start kissing. Soon we are taking our clothes off, before moving up to the bedroom – and having a fantastic hour’s sex. What a good start.
JAN 2: Our daughter stayed at my mum’s last night so we are home alone. We wake and Daniel puts his arms around me, in a state of arousal. We haven’t had morning sex for ages. I’d forgotten how lovely it is. We can really take our time because neither of us is working and we have lots of foreplay, which is lovely. For the rest of the day we have big smiles on our faces.
JAN 3: We get home late from work tired and make dinner but avoid eye contact because sex feels like a chore. But we sit up watching TV then Daniel puts an arm round me. That simple act lightens the mood and it feels natural to start making love. We lie in each other’s arms and chat. We feel lovely and close.
Did Daniel and Sara turn their sex life around? Sonja Horsman
JAN 4: Early-morning sex again. Making this the first thing you do in the day makes such a difference but it does make us both late out of bed. Our daughter is due back today so we make the most of our freedom – normally it’s impossible to have morning sex with a young child in the house, as you have to be out of bed early. Afterwards we have the most open talk about sex that we have had for ages.
JAN 5: We sit up watching TV until 1am. By that time I am sleepy and relaxed and, when we go to bed, we have gentle sex. We are both finding it helps us sleep and Daniel says it improves his mood when he wakes. He feels proud of himself and more secure in our relationship.
JAN 6: We are moving house tomorrow so tonight we have a house party with friends and get to bed late. Sex is drunken and we laugh a lot. Not our best performance but we manage it. I tell Daniel we’ve blessed the house with our last act of sex here.
JAN 7: Moving out today, so we snatch a bit of very early-morning delight. I am distracted by things we have to do today so sex is rushed. But it is still great and we agree daily sex seems to give us more energy.
— SARA SAYS: We’ve reconnected and I feel much more valued and appreciated as a woman. It’s easy to get into a habit of not having sex, then you start sniping at each other.
— DANIEL SAYS: My favourite is the early-morning sex. I bounce out of bed with a smile. During the day I get lovely flashbacks and look forward to seeing Sara later. I am up for sex every day from now on, if Sara is.