Foreplay can be very important to make your love-making last longer and be intense. Did you know there are way more spots on your body to stimulate that you may be overlooking?
Chances are, you and your guy have a few go-to moves that are guaranteed to get you both hot and primed for action. And while it’s great that you know what works on your bodies, sticking to the same old thing (an ear nibble here, a nipple lick there) won’t lead to a bed-shaking finale. “When you touch each other in a familiar way every time, your body becomes desensitized, and it won’t feel as arousing,” says Lori Buckley, PhD, a sex therapist in Pasadena, California.
So, on the hunt for new tricks, we consulted top foreplay experts and discovered uncharted erogenous zones so packed with powerful nerve endings, just touching them takes you from 0 to, um, 69. Read on to find out where they are and how you can electrify them tonight.
SWEET SPOT 1
The Ultrasensitive Border Around the Lips
Okay, so you know how to kiss. But what you probably don’t know is that there’s an undercover pleasure transmitter, the buccal nerve, surrounding the edges of the mouth.
“This area is extremely sensitive to touch, but it’s often overlooked since most people focus on the plump part of the lips,” says clinical sexologist Rachael Ross, MD, PhD. If you try lightly tracing the tip of your finger around the edges of your mouth (like you’re putting on lip liner), you’ll experience a tingly, almost ticklish feeling.
When you’re making out, you don’t need to lick around his entire mouth to get the benefits — that would be weird. Instead, kiss him as you normally do, then use the tip of your tongue to trace the edge of his upper lip lightly. Pull back and playfully kiss him again, then trace the border of his bottom lip. “It subconsciously reminds him of your tongue swirling around the tip of his penis,” says Dr. Ross. The technique works when he does it to you too, triggering thoughts of what his tongue can do below the belt.
SWEET SPOT 2
That Sexy Dip Where Neck Meets Chest
The entire area between your jawline and shoulders is an erogenous zone, but there’s one particular destination that’ll spark more goose bumps than any other part. “It’s that little indentation where the neck connects with the collarbone,” says Leah Millheiser, MD, director of female sexual medicine at Stanford Medical Center. “The skin is thinner there, and there’s not as much fatty tissue underneath, so the sensations are stronger.” In other words, touching this area feels damn good.
So as you kiss down his neck, trail the tips of your index and middle fingers from one shoulder to the dip in the center, lingering to swirl your fingers in a slow, circular motion. Then move your mouth over the spot and kiss it, using your breath to warm the area.
“The combination of the heat and touch relaxes the body, turning you on,” says Buckley. “Plus, when your guy touches you here, your entire chest becomes more sensitive, including your breasts, which increases your pleasure.”