IF YOU’RE IN A LONG- TERM RELATIONSHIP..
Mind your language – Long-term couples forget to use “pleasure words” that people use when first dating.
Pop expressive words into your messages today as well as tonight.
Instead of “Looking forward to tonight,” say, “It’s going to be lovely seeing you later.”
Or instead of, “You look nice,” say, “You look so handsome”.
Spell it out – Dr Read suggests: “Leave a trail of notes to lead the way.
“Write the relevant letter of the alphabet on the back of each note so when put together they spell the special something you have planned.
“At the end of the trail to your candlelit bedroom, they will find you waiting with chilled drinks.
Reconnect with fun – Do something unexpected tonight that creates the need for contact and throws you into each other’s arms.
“For instance, see a scary film or try ice skating – the spontaneous physical contact rekindles touch between couples.
Red-hot massage – Treat them to a Thai massage – rise up on your elbows and gently caress your body against theirs – with your tops off this technique will really set your skin tingling.
Next, take a sexy massage technique into the shower.
A face cloth can even be used, gently swirled in slow circular movements all over their body.
Sensual picnic – Jo Hemmings advises: “Host an indoor picnic.
“Make sure the kids are asleep and buy or make some simple but tempting finger foods.
“Throw down a blanket in your living room and snuggle up while you feed each other nibbles.
“It’s fun and can lead to nibbles of your own…”
Kitchen karma sutra – A candlelit dinner in the kitchen can be transformed into sizzling sex.
After feeding each other by hand don’t bother going to the bedroom as you can couple up against the counter, over the table, on a chair or on the floor – the possibilities are endless in this versatile room.
Bath-time fun – “Grab a bottle of bubbly from the off licence then run a bath,” suggests Siski Green.
“You can both enjoy the giddy fun of bubbles in the bath. Blow gently on your partner’s skin when it is wet, and the tingling will ignite their desire.”
Fantasy play – Fantasies can recharge interest so ask if they have a secret one. Give them confidence to share it, saying you would love to hear it.
Or suggest a fantasy game taking turns telling a story in delicious detail. Start by pretending you picked each other up for raunchy “stranger” sex!
Date with a difference – Established couples can bring on the romance by going back to the place you had your first date.
Once there, have fun chatting about what first attracted you to each other – a kiss, a smile, giggling.
Studies show taking a trip down memory lane rekindles warmth and romance.
Curated by Erbe
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