Talk it out

When it comes to the wedding night, it’s imperative you and your partner get on the same page. “Have a conversation with your spouse about your wedding night and make a decision together about what kind of connection you want to have on that night.

Chances are, if you are having worries, he or she may be too. And sharing your worries helps you manage both your expectations and any anxiety you might have.

Additionally, it’s smart to sit down and talk out how you anticipate your mind and body will feel after a non-stop and emotional day. It makes sense for couples to talk over together how they might feel after their wedding, and have some ideas about what might feel good for them sexually. But your conversation doesn’t have to stop there. When the time comes the couple can talk about what they’re in the mood for.

Concentrate on having good sex before your big day

It’s one thing if you’re waiting for marriage. But if you and your partner have already knocked boots, “have sex as often as you like before the wedding. Couples who ‘hold off’ having sex immediately before their wedding night create anxiety and unfair expectations, ultimately putting more pressure on themselves to have spectacular wedding night sex. Anxiety and expectations do not create desire or promote arousal.

With managed expectations and memories of mind-blowing sex fresh in your minds, you’ll be more likely to give yourself and your spouse a break if the wedding night falls short of amazing sex.

At the end of such a long day, it’s reasonable to simply want to crawl into bed with your spouse and get some sleep at the end of a day where you’ve been the center of attention. Don’t be hard on yourself if things don’t go as planned.

Curated by Erbe
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