4. You Start Seeing Things That Aren’t There

If your first relationship had some major problems — if your partner cheated or they were controlling — you can be hyper-sensitive to that in your future relationships. Which makes sense, it’s a good self-protection mechanism. But you can also start to see that when it’s not actually happening. You’re so upset by what went wrong in your first relationship that part of you is always on the lookout for it happening again. Just make sure that it as actually happening and try to give your partner the benefit of the doubt.

5. You Get Used To Sex A Certain Way

Whether or not it’s your first sexual partner, the first time you have sex in a relationship is a big one. Having regular sex with the same person means (or should mean) that you start to learn what you really want and love in bed. But you also just get really used to that person’s sex style. This means in your next relationship you’ll have to forget the go-to moves your first partner loved, and really pay attention to what your new partner likes.

6. You Learn Whether Relationships Are For You

The truth is, you may not be a relationship person. And sometimes it takes trying one to know that. You may have one and decide it’s not for you. Or you may have one and decide that they are for you, but you need a lot of independence to make them work. A first relationship is a chance to work out your own relationship style, which makes knowing what you want in future relationship so much easier. You know your own ground rules, and it saves you a lot of time and heartache.

Curated by Erbe
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