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Ladies In Bed, You Know What You’re Doing!

by zfortadminin Sex

You Know Who You Are: The way women self identify, meaning comfort with your sexual identification “Being a Lesbian” is important to your full satisfaction in and out of the bedroom.

Pleasure You Can Translate: Woman to woman, physiologically you know each other. You can translate that inner visceral understanding rapidly into comprehensive know-how to reach the heart of your partner’s pleasure zone.

Sexy Togetherness— Let’s not under value, engaging with a “familiar” partner.  More women find trust, comfort, bonding and dare we say LOVE, foundational to liberating their orgasmic response.

Two Lesbians

Eye to Eye– When it comes to your love, you identify outside of the social conforms of a “who’s on top,” dominate, subordinate paradigm. A natural, mutual reciprocity in pleasure is a highly valued reality to you.

Orgasmic Creativity—You are creating the handbook for sex and orgasmic pleasure in real time. As one of my frank lesbian colleagues confided recently, Lesbian porn is really bad. While you may not agree with that sentiment, when you are not overwhelmed, thank Goddess, by an extensive library of predetermined ways to go about a certain sexual experience, you are freer to invent. Ladies, you explore, you discover, you share your findings and in essence you create your own art form. Clearly you are doing it well.

Kinsey Institute gets granular about orgasm in the human female. They state orgasm is a variable transient peak sensation of intense pleasure, creating an altered state of consciousness, usually with an initiation accompanied by involuntary, rhythmic contradictions of the pelvic striated circumvaginal musculature and uterine and anal contractions …..with an induction of wellbeing and contentment. That is a sensory, scientific mouthful!

My point of view, orgasm cracks us open.  Rocks our physical and interior worlds. What more meaningful, sharable experience to enjoy!

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What Does Your Brain in Love Look Like?

by zfortadminin Sex

Why do we crave love so much, even to the point that we would die for it? To learn more about our very real, very physical need for romantic love, Helen Fisher and her research team took MRIs of people in love — and people who had just been dumped.

Getting My Needs Met Under the Covers

by Jules Thompsonin Sex

I write this article knowing it is likely to be my most divisive to date. For it contains the following shocking truth: my boyfriend and I sleep with two single duvets. And we are not yet in our 70s (at which point, apparently, this kind of behavior becomes acceptable). No, we are just two 30-somethings who really like our sleep. So when we realized that we hated – truly hated – sleeping in the same bed, we put our heads together and thought our way out of the box and into our current sleeping arrangement. This process marked a transformative and empowering moment in our relationship. For it was one of the first times that we bothered to fly in the face of convention and find a solution that really worked for us.

Picture this: once upon a time, my partner and I shared a duvet. Throughout the night, we would wake up at least once an hour, sometimes too hot, often too cold. Resentment grew, minor disagreements morphed into physical spats, knees found their way into backs, humans found their way onto floors. It was an intolerable situation that could not go on. And yet, many couples continue like this their whole lives.

You might think I’m exaggerating the significance of our single duvets, but they really do seem to offend some people. A few friends have reacted to the news of them as though we have just revealed we like to take small mammals to bed with us; others see them as deeply unromantic; a sign that we are inherently divided, and probably never touch each other, let alone have sex.

In fact, this change marked an improvement in our sex life. Because, let us be clear on this, tiredness is not sexy. Sleep deprivation has been used throughout history as a method of torture; there is a reason for this.

And not all our friends disapprove of our decision to sleep with separate duvets. For those who have suffered similarly miserable nights at the hands of their loved ones, our sleep solution is akin to the secret of alchemy. When these same friends learn that the Swedes do it (and make it look really rather stylish) they are often officially sold.

These days, however, we generally sleep the whole night through completely oblivious to the other’s presence. It is marvelous. In the morning we wake up after eight hours’ uninterrupted sleep and get to discover each other all over again. One of us will usually slip under the other’s duvet for a toasty morning cuddle. If anything, we now enjoy more physically intimacy, because we like each other the whole night through.

I’m not saying single duvets are for everyone, but this issue reminds us of the importance of making choices in our relationships that are right for us. Marriage is for some people, but not for everyone; children, date nights, swinging likewise. If we want to be happy in love, we need to question our decisions, so that we can be sure they are motivated by what we truly want, and not simply by the fact that ‘everyone else is doing it’. Others will always judge our choices, but this matters not one jot if we are able to wear them with pride.

Sex IS not shameful – Shame IS hurtful

by zfortadminin Sex

There are probably very few parents around who would explain their children that masturbation is a normal and healthy activity and would tell them to just enjoy it.

Sex is such a personal issue that it’s the most painful place a young person can be shamed. Now that social media has become so prevalent it’s has become the common arena in which to harass someone. For example, the expression “slut shaming” is often used online when teenage girls are being criticised (shamed) for their sexual expression or assumed sexual experiences. No chance we will ever see “stud shaming” used to the same extent.

Being shamed can affect anyone, but it especially affects those who don’t fit the “norm” – lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual and intersex (LGBTI) people are easy targets. They are recognised as being a high-risk group for suicide, documented in this 2010 senate committee report. They feel marginalised because of their sexuality – this is how sexual shame hurts people.

So if we don’t want people to feel ashamed about sex, what exactly is “normal sex”? Sex is a consensual act between adults and you can do anything you want as long as it’s legal. Bondage, group sex, cybersex, swinging and kinky sex, looking at porn or using sex toys – anything goes. And if you don’t have a partner, solo sex is a great way to self-pleasure.

 

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My Sex Education

by Lorraine Rockin Sex

My sister and I were brought up up almost entirely by my Mom, until we were pre-teens. My Mom was a lovely affectionate woman, but she was so perfect that neither of us felt that we could talk to her about things that bothered us.

Sex did not exist in our household. We sometimes wondered how we came to be!

My Dad was a career Naval Officer, he was a vet who had enlisted at 16, and was rarely home, even in peacetime. He left the Navy after 25 years service, and my parents promptly discovered that they couldn’t live together. My sister and I were sent off to a private (all-girl) Boarding school, and my Dad shipped out to a contract overseas.

I had been a real Daddy’s girl, and was devastated by what I felt was his abandonment. I had grown up without brothers, but I identified strongly with my Dad and had been a tomboy, so most of my friends were boys. My Dad had told me that there wasn’t anything a boy could do that I couldn’t, except pee standing up, and I even tried to do that!

Our Boarding School was quite religious and was very rigid, sex-ed class was very clinical, just about Biology, nothing about sexuality. We were not allowed out alone, and our only visitors were our parents. The only boys we saw were at church, or at choir practice, so when I started to think about boys, I felt as though it was a “bad’ thing to do. Any good feelings I had from boys, when I could get near any of the choir boys, were repressed.

My sister, who was 2 years older, did not have boy-friends. I thought it was weird to like boys, only the sluts at school were into boys. As I grew up in this atmosphere, boys became a totally unknown quantity. I forgot how easy it had been before around my Dad, and became shy and somewhat afraid of them.

After six years in this stifling atmosphere I graduated at 17, and went back to live with my mother and sister. I went to College, and also worked part-time for my Mom. She was the manager and book-keeper of a private club, and I went to work as the DJ. Because I was underage I couldn’t drink, or interact with anyone so I just spun the records and I started to re-discover my ease with the opposite sex.

At the club, as a really naive 17 year old, I was at first unaware of the waiters flirting with me, until one called me a “Baby” and dared me to go to a movie with him. He was about 24, and quite cute (he was Spanish, with beautiful brown eyes and a shy smile, and just the right kind of charm). I picked up the challenge, and met him on a day off. He was waiting for me with a long-stemmed red rose, I was smitten.

The date went great until he asked me back to his place, which was a one-room apartment. The only place to sit was on the bed, and after a couple of glasses of “Orange juice” (spiked with vodka)I was dizzy, and curious, and we were making out. Without going into detail, let’s just say that the inevitable happened, and I ended up a pregnant teenager.

Lack of knowledge, lack of street-smarts, call it whatever you like. I call it lack of preparedness for the real world, caused me great emotional and physical harm. I was almost schizoid about it, planning to go to Canada, and throw myself on my Dad’s mercy. I couldn’t tell Mom, I thought she would disown me! Outwardly nothing changed, I continued to go to College as though nothing was going on.

One Friday afternoon in class, I started to miscarry. My friend Gina told me that I was going very pale then flushing, and looked like I was going to pass out. At 12 weeks, I went into a type of labor and miscarried, alone, in a toilet.

I travelled home on the underground, wearing a ton of pads, and, after making excuses to my family, had a long hot bath and went to bed. I didn’t go to a doctor, I didn’t even know that I should. I was so ashamed of myself that I told no-one. The next day, being a strong healthy 17 year old I went out with Gina, and vowed to forget all about it.

I grew up too fast after that. I became one of the “bad” girls, got on the pill, and for a few years became the kind of girl my old self abhorred.

When my sister became pregnant., I was 21, and moved out. I could not stand to be around as my Mom became the perfect understanding grandmother-to-be, and took care of my sister.

When I eventually did tell her, my mother was horrified that I had not told her at the time, and that I had never had proper medical care. She told me she would have taken care of me, after she had dragged the Spanish waiter off to the cops! She had often wondered why he kept asking her about me.

I was lucky, I had no lasting physical damage and though I had the kind of problems that most girls with absent fathers have, attracted to older men, and continuing to have relationship problems through my 20’s. I did marry in my 30’s and had two wonderful children, who know all about me, and have always been able to ask me ANYTHING!

One thing I discovered was that it is rarely “bad” girls who land up with unintentional pregnancies, they are far too savvy for that. It is the innocent and naive who become victims of sexual predators. Knowledge is armor, without it young girls are essentially defenseless.

If you plan on becoming a parent please remember that it is your duty to equip your children for life, knowledge about sex and sexuality is as essential for survival, as a good education, good food, and a warm safe home.

4 Passionate Ways To Get Your Man BEGGING For More

by zfortadminin Sex

2. Learn How To Talk Dirty

Yes, we all know that men are turned on mostly by what they see. But what you may not know is that if you want to vastly increase his sexual satisfaction when you are in bed together, then you need to learn how to talk dirty to him. Talking dirty to your man takes a little practice and work. But once you master it, you’ll have another skill in your sex toolset that most other girls don’t possess. The first stage to talking dirty to your man doesn’t actually involve words. It simply involves you getting louder and louder during sex. You need to accentuate your moans and groans. This is quite easy. A

ll you are going to be moaning is, “Mmmmmm” or “Ooooooo” or “Ahhhhh.” Easy, right? The next stage to talking dirty is just using 1 or 2 words. Try slowly saying, “Yes” or “That’s it” or “Yes, Yes” or “Keep Going.” When you are saying these 1 or 2 word phrases, try drawing them out and moaning as you say them. I go into much greater detail about talking dirty, with examples in this detailed video tutorial that will teach you exactly how to talk dirty to your man to build sexual tension and turn him on.

Many women don’t ever even get to the second stage. So if you do, you are already ahead of them! Getting dirtier is actually pretty easy if you’ve mastered the first 2 stages. You just need to start telling your man what you enjoy about him and what he is doing, “I love how big you feel” or “Keep hitting that spot” or “Keep going, harder” or “You feel so good inside me.” But dirty talk during sex is only a start! Don’t forget that you can talk dirty to him during the day as well as through text if you want to turn him on and keep him satisfied.

3. Learn Some Awesome Sex Positions

One of the things that I strongly believe in is the use of variation if your want to keep your man sexually satisfied in the bedroom. Everybody (both guys and girls) have certain things that turn them on way more than anything else. But if you focus solely on the same few things and use them over and over, you will inevitably end up getting bored of them. I strongly advocate that all my students should constantly try new things in the bedroom with their man and intersperse these new things with what already works well. That way you will slowly but steadily build up a large database of killer sex moves that are highly pleasurable to your man.

4. Learn How To Give Awesome Oral Sex

If you are serious about learning how to satisfy your man sexually, then learning how to give fantastic, pleasurable blow jobs should be near the top of your list of priorities. If you want a quick start guide on how to give your man perfect oral sex, then you may be interested in this detailed and poweful video tutorial where I’ll teach exactly what you need to do.

 

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Is Your Man Giving Oral Sex His Best?

by zfortadminin Sex

Now, I understand that cunnilingus is not the simplest of tasks. There are nuances to be learned, and they differ from person to person, which means that even in lesbian sex, where you “know what you’re working with,” you still have to figure out what works best for your partner. (But as a general rule, lick lightly. Jeez.) I’ve had my own oral difficulties in the past. I once slept with a girl who had the sort of vagina that isn’t so easily navigated—her clit was sort of hidden under a bunch of other stuff. While down there, I said, “Tell me where it feels good,” thinking she would direct my tongue. Instead, she just looked down at me with disdain, rolled her eyes and responded, “On my clit, duh.” Insulted, I put my head back down and resorted to the trial-and-error strategy, taking cues from her moans on where to steer my tongue—a less efficient method, but it worked. Still, her condescension didn’t do wonders for my sexual ego.

Men seem to think that blow jobs are easy—that you just suck and try to keep your teeth out of the way. Samantha once famously broke it down for a lover in Sex and the City: the teeth placement, jaw stress, suction, gag reflex, head bobbing, moaning, and breathing through the nose. “Easy?” Samantha says. “Honey, they don’t call it a job for nothing.” Well said. Not to mention that BJs often result in a mouthful of bodily fluids—that’s way more intense than anything cunnilingus has to offer, even if the girl goes full bush. And for the record, it is possible to give a bad blow job. I once made the mistake of eating a kale salad twenty minutes before deep throating. It wasn’t pretty, nor was it my proudest BJ moment. Google “bad blow job” and you’ll find endless tales from men about women botching the job.

One of my favorite videos from the Desire Project—an evolving online documentary where women share stories about desire—is of a girl named Amy talking about how she used to hate receiving oral sex. She says, “I thought good oral sex was a myth. . .  I was like, ‘This is always just going to be meh . . . but I need to pretend like I like it, because I want you to stop, but I don’t want to hurt your feelings.’ I just figured that when people talk about guys going down on girls, that it’s just more of a courtesy thing, and not actually enjoyable.” She goes on to talk about meeting the magical guy who blew her mind, made her cum in record time, and proved her theory wrong. While Amy’s story is funny and relatable, I also recognized a fault in her sexual conduct that I, too, am guilty of: She wasn’t happy with the sex she was having, but she didn’t do anything to change it.

We all get vulnerable when we’re naked. Sexual egos are fragile, probably especially in men, who are expected to be sexually competent. We don’t want to criticize our partners’ performance in bed, for fear of hurting their feelings or making them not like us. But perpetuating negative or ineffective sexual behavior is bad for everyone involved. As Dan Savage always says, women have to enable their own pleasure—we have to be our own best advocate in bed, and be as aggressive and entitled as men are. We can’t just whine about our partners being lazy and inept and not do anything to make the situation better. Whenever I encounter a guy who’s bad at giving head, I always think, God, what girl let you think that that was acceptable?! But then I remember that I, too, have been that girl.

 

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Top 5 Tips for Giving A Great BJ

by Susanna Leein Sex

3. Give Yourself A Hand

Wrap your hand around the shaft, mouth over the head of the penis.  Use your hand to stroke in the same direction as your mouth is moving.  This allows you to cover more ground, increasing the total sensation, making the act more pleasurable, as well as efficient.  Use a little pressure, but not a death grip, more like a light handshake (no need to literally choke the chicken).  I like to begin by licking the head with my hand around the base, then using my hand to spread saliva over the entire penis.  Why is this important?  Because…
Closeup of woman chewing lips

4. Wetter Is Better

Head should be wet, the sensation of lips smoothly gliding over skin can be ruined by cottonmouth, so hydrate beforehand.  A warm, wet mouth is like a free beach house, it’s where our pink parts want to spend their summers, because genitalia rarely chooses to vacation in the desert.  Take a water break if you need (don’t break hand contact, though, maintain momentum), or, if you’re a gambler, try my trick of taking the penis deep enough down the throat to lightly gag, which produces more saliva (don’t question why, because the answer is kinda gross, unless you’re into Roman showers…).

5. Make A Little Noise

Not a lot, not none.  Resist being naive like I was in my early 20’s, fooled by the term “hummer”, you needn’t buzz like a bee from start to finish.  A little moan here and there provides an added tingle, both physically as well as mentally.  It reinforces that you’re enjoying yourself by giving this pleasure, as well as adding an actual vibration that feels nice to most people.

“Most people” is actually a great way to transition into my send off.  The tips I’ve given you are good places to start.  They have been effective for me with most partners, but people do have unique preferences, and nothing sexual is ever one-size-fits-all, so don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner.  Ask if the pressure is ok, because maybe they like being sucked on with all the force required for a McDonald’s milkshake, but don’t want to come off like they’re looking a gift horse in the mouth (a more perfect use for that phrase has never existed).  And oral sex is absolutely a gift, don’t think otherwise, and don’t deny yourself the self-satisfactory pat-on-the-back of a job well done as you watch the recipient’s joy during the unwrap.  Good job!  High-five!  You did it, score one for team BJ!

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6 Traits Men Find Incredibly Irresistible

by zfortadminin Sex

He’s looking for these traits and they have nothing to do with looks! 

While a sultry dress and stilettos may make him look, what really gets him going might surprise you.

So you’ve spotted a guy who looks like he could be the man of your dreams across the room, and before you know it, he’s noticed you too. He walks over, gives you a cheesy (but cute) opening line, and now you’re talking to him.

You and I both know that you are all that, but right now he only knows that you look great. So what will make him realize that you really are the girl he’s been waiting his whole life for and make him want to retire his little black book for good? Here are 6 personality traits that will make just about any guy fall head over heels for you.

1. You’re Not Easily Impressed

You’re not the type of woman that gets all dreamy eyed just because an attractive guy has decided to talk to you. You know that you’re the one doing the choosing. Of course, in any good relationship both partners have to choose each other, and for the right reasons, but what we’re talking about here are those first fledgling hours and subsequent dates.

The point here is not to pretend that you aren’t interested while your heart is actually fluttering and you’re secretly concerned that you’re starting to sweat; instead, consciously realize that you’re not sure if he’s all that either — after all, you just met him, how could you possibly know anything more about him than how he looks, walks and smiles?

That’s just not much to go on. So, approach the situation as exactly what it is — you think he’s superficially attractive, but he’s going to have to prove to you that he’s worth talking to, much less giving your number to. Look at this as a chance to find out if he really is a guy that you want to get to know better.

Men love this because they truly want to win you over; they’re biologically wired for the chase, so let him chase you. If you’re interested, and think he’s attractive, that will automatically show through your body language. You’ll be smiling, laughing at his jokes, your eyes will light up, and he’ll notice that.

But he’ll also notice that you’re clearly not desperate, because you know that you’re a great catch, and now it’s time for him to show you why he’d be a great catch. We’re not talking about playing games like intentionally acting uninterested or walking away from him after ten minutes.

Just be who you actually are — a woman who finds him attractive on the surface, but who needs to find out what’s underneath to be convinced that he’s the right guy for you. You know that it will take more than a few minutes (or even a few dates) for him to convince you of that.

2. You Know You’ve Really Got It Going On

You know you’re all that (and more), but not in an arrogant way. You’ve got that kind of quiet confidence that allows you to feel comfortable in almost any situation because you feel good about yourself and your capabilities.

When you’re confident your body language shows it in the way you make eye contact, the way you carry yourself, and your easy smile. Men can’t help but go gaga over a woman who’s just so sure of herself.

3. You Feel Sexy

It’s not about looking sexy, it’s about feeling sexy. I’m not talking about that low cut dress and stiletto heels kind of sexy — I’m talking about the kind of sensual, self-assured, comfortable in your own skin (and oh what beautiful skin) kind of sexy. When you feel sexy, it will automatically show through your body language, the way you move, and the way you smile.

The best way to feel sexy? It’s not about what you’re wearing on the outside; wear your sexiest lingerie underneath your outfit, even if it’s jeans and a sweatshirt at a spring barbeque. Even though you know that nobody will see it but you at the end of the evening, by wearing your soft, sexy, silky lingerie you know in your mind that it would knock the socks off of the guy you’re talking to, and that shows through. When you feel sexy, you’ll be sexy.

4. You’re Interesting

You have your own life, and wow, it’s pretty good. Guys want to know that once the two of you start dating you won’t be looking for them to be your sole source of a social life and happiness in general. Nobody wants the clinger – the girl who has no social life of her own except for going out with her girlfriends looking for men. Guys know that this girl won’t be interested in doing that once she settles down, and are afraid that then she’ll want to do everything with him.

Most men highly value their alone time, and they need to know that they won’t lose all of it if they’re in a relationship with you. It’s as simple as mentioning a project that you’re working on (non-career related), talking about an interesting course that you’re taking for fun, or a weekend getaway you have planned with your girlfriends. By casually letting him know that you have other interests (you do, right?) and that you like to spend time and have plans with your friends, he’ll feel good knowing that you’ll be ok without him when he needs his alone time.

5. You’re Interested

You want to find out more about this cute guy you just met, right? So you’re asking a few questions about him — where he grew up, how many siblings he has, any pets? Not to the point of it sounding like an interview, and certainly not questions that are inappropriately personal, but generally you’re showing him that you’re interested in getting to know him better (and you are, right?) This makes him realize that once you’re in a relationship together it won’t just be all about you.

6. You’re glowing

People that are happy, exuberant, enthusiastic, and have a great attitude towards life are very attractive to other people. It’s like there’s a light that shines from your eyes and your smile, and surrounds you, bathing you in its translucent beauty.

It’s a of mix of confidence, physical and emotional health, self-esteem, and loving your life. Men can’t help but pick up on this energy and get drawn in by it. It may have been what brought him over to you in the first place, and he’ll be so intrigued by this vibrant gem that he’s found that he won’t be able to tear himself away.

This inner glow is not something you can fake, and I know it’s not always easy to feel when you’ve been dateless for a while and may be starting to feel down on yourself and your life. If you’re not feeling the glow right now, then it may be time to take a break from the search and work on improving your happiness, confidence levels, and self-esteem.

The best way to start feeling good about yourself and your life simply involves doing things that you love, being healthy (physically and emotionally), and getting some accomplishments under your belt, even if they’re relatively simple ones.

Try your hand at something new, something slightly intimidating, and keep at it until you’ve become relatively proficient. Accomplishing things that you were initially afraid to try can be an excellent confidence booster and add tremendously to your excitement and zeal for life.

The key to each of these really boils down to being your best, authentic self. If you can focus on being true to yourself, following your own interests without trying to be something different than what you are, then everything else will fall into place.

Once you stop trying to go against your own true nature you’ll discover your own sense of self, you’ll feel more confident and happy, you’ll be more excited about life, you’ll be more loving, and you’ll start to attract the same into your life. You’ll be nothing less than irresistible.

 

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Powerful Way to Prevent Sexual Assault on College Campuses

by zfortadminin Body, Sex, Wellness

Could the key to ending rapes lie in a clinical trial? 

An intensive program showing female college students how to recognize and resist sexual aggression reduced their chances of being raped over a year period by nearly half, according to new research.

The study, published Wednesday in the New England Journal of Medicine, compared the effects of attending a four-session course in resisting sexual assault to a more typical university approach of providing brochures on sexual assault.

The program is one of the first to demonstrate success in a controlled trial — and among the first to be published by the medical journal, best-known as a forum for clinical drug trials.

The study comes just weeks before colleges and universities across the country are required to detail how they will deal with sexual assault. Those reports, due to the U.S. Department of Education on July 1, are mandated by the 2013 Campus Sexual Violence Elimination Act.

At least 1 in 5 women has been a victim of sexual assault that occurred while she was attending college. By far, most of the attempted or completed sexual assaults on college campuses are perpetrated by classmates, dates or acquaintances of the victim.

Freshman and sophomore women are thought to be at the greatest risk of sexual assault.

Experts say the ubiquity of alcohol, freedom from parental monitoring, and an atmosphere that celebrates macho and athletic bravado are all factors that foster sexual assaults.

Canadian psychologist Charlene Y. Senn, lead author of the study, said that the socialization of young women often prevents many would-be victims from acknowledging and responding to a sexual predator in ways that will thwart an assault.

Young women arriving at college have widely been socialized to be friendly and likable, which can blind them to the aggressive advances they might encounter at a party, she added.

In 2005, Senn devised a curriculum to help young women overcome the emotional barriers that delay or prevent their recognition of sexual aggression and respond to it.

Over four three-hour sessions, the course worked on skills to assess, acknowledge and, if necessary, rebuff unwanted sexual advances.
Those sessions included instruction in recognizing sexual coercion and the circumstances in which it can take place. Participants also had two hours of self-defense training based on the martial art Wen-Do.

Experts caution that reducing sexual violence by focusing on a victim’s will or ability to resist has fallen out of favor in recent years.

In their place are programs that address the motives of potential perpetrators and energize bystanders to intervene. Such approaches place the blame for sexual assault squarely on the perpetrator.

By focusing on a potential victim’s power to thwart her attackers, some experts warned that such a program might contribute to blaming victims.

In an editorial accompanying the study, Kathleen C. Basile, an epidemiologist with the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, wrote that the study’s “primary weakness is that it places the onus for prevention on potential victims, possibly obscuring the responsibility of perpetrators and others.”

But teaching women how to identify and resist are still important strategies, Senn says.

Between September 2011 and February 2013, 893 freshman women at the Universities of Calgary, Windsor and Guelph in Canada took part in the study.

Holding three-hour sessions on weeknights and marathon sessions on weekends, Senn and her coauthors put 451 women through a series of lectures, problem-solving exercises, discussions and self-defense classes aimed at helping them define their own sexual desires and boundaries, recognize and discourage sexual aggression and resist an assault.

The remaining 442 women were assigned to a control group, in which they attended a 15-minute session and were provided brochures on sexual assault.

About a year after the sessions ended, Senn and her colleagues surveyed the participants, asking detailed questions about their sexual contacts in the preceding year.

Among women offered the brochures on sexual assault, 9.8% reported they had been raped and 9.3% reported they had been the intended victims of attempted rapes.

Some 40% reported other nonconsensual sexual contact, in which they experienced unwanted sexual touching or fondling.

An additional 14% said they had been subject to coercive sex in which a perpetrator pressured or manipulated them into compliance.

Among women who got the resistance training, 5.2% said they had been raped and 3.4% reported attempted rapes — reductions of 46.3% and 63.2% respectively.

Rates of nonconsensual sexual contact reported by this group were 34% lower than those in the control group, and reports of sexual coercion were roughly 24% less common.

Sarah Yang, a 2014 graduate of UC Davis who was president of that campus’ Women’s Health Initiative, said publication of the study in a medical journal boosts the profile of the issue.

“It validates campus sexual assault as a public health issue — and that’s huge,” said Yang, an aspiring physician. “It’s national now. It’s international.”

Senn emphasized that training only women to avert sexual assailants addresses just part of the solution.

“There’s no quick fixes,” she said. “We have to make stopping sexual violence everyone’s problem — everyone’s business — to hold men accountable, to support victims. But we also need to give women the tools they need to fight back.”

 

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Tantric Yoga for Lovers

by zfortadminin Mind, Sex

These moves look sensual and grow intimacy! 

Improve the quality of your relationship and loving, increase the flow of sexual energy, and share a gentle yoga routine with your partner. Develop a regular practice for toning your bodies, and balance body mind and spirit – in and out of the bedroom.

Tantric Yoga for Lovers
Simple yoga moves can connect you deeper with your partner and make your lovemaking stronger.

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A Practical Guide To Threesomes: And Lady Makes Three… 

by Virginia Jonesin Sex

Good Advice for The Guest:

  1. No matter what your typical bed style, try taking the beta position. You’re assuring the host that she’s the boss, and what she says goes.  Pay the most attention to her.  You’re not here to blow up her spot.  Make her comfortable.  A lot of the threesome experience is a show the two of you put on for him.
  1. If a member of the couple leaves the room, the game is paused. How would you feel if you walked in on your dude and another lady, even if you’d been with both of them moments before?  Empathy is important.  Despite lots going on, try to put yourself in the position of the other players and treat them how you’d like to be treated.
  2. Once the game is over, it’s probably best to find your panties and head home! If you see them again, maybe you can have a sleepover.  The first threesome is a testing ground and is best kept on the short side.  Be safe, be sweet, and have fun, you sexy so-and-so!
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The Most Steamy Sexual Phrases From Romance Novels

by zfortadminin Sex

Steamy phrases from Romance Novels can be quite funny on their own! 

Why can’t we just say … *whisper* penis and vagina?

Romance novels have a language and style all their own. Though they contain sex scenes, they’ve always aimed to be more tasteful than your standard pornography fare. Hence, the flowery descriptors for male and female genitalia and sexuality. Romance novels are the proper, eloquent statesman to pornography’s grunting caveman.

What makes romance novels so much fun on a comedic level is just how creative the authors often get with the language. What do you say when you don’t want to mutter penis or vagina?

Blogger John Ferri found the humor in romance novels, as well. His wife is a fan of the genre and after reading a few himself, Ferri started compiling lists of some of the more hilarious sexual descriptions.

WARNING: Blushing and junior high-level giggling ahead.

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Curated by Timothy
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Building Your Soundtrack for Getting It On

by Lexi Notabartoloin Sex

Just Say NO to the Music Genome Project

Pandora / Spoitfy Radio / Tidal are gifts given to the world at little to no cost. When it comes to making the beast with two backs, however, they are the enemy. You can customize playlists to a certain degree, but these programs are like Bonsai trees: They require constant pruning to stay awesome. Stick with a pre-made playlist for certainty.

Is it Ska?

Hey, I love ska. A lot. Sadly, high energy music like ska and punk isn’t the best choice for lovemaking tuneage (see “Rhythm Nation 2015”) even if you love the music at other times. Take it off and leave The Specials for your “Pre-Game with the Posse” mix.

Know Your Audience

Like people, these playlists are not one-size-fits-most. Total metal head? Sensitive folk-y barista? Nooner? Late night rendezvous? Each will suggest a different sonic experience. Make sure you’re thinking of the context when you build your playlists.

Respect

The art of creating a sexy times playlist is just that – an art. This is not a mixtape and we are no longer in middle school. This is the serious, awkward business of lovemaking. When you sit down at your computer / portable music device / CD collection to begin this process, thank those that came before you and have passed on their successes and failures in similar endeavors.

Some great places to start looking for music to build your own sexual soundscape:

Sade – Love Deluxe

Bill Evans – Explorations

Zero Seven – Simple Things

RJD2 – Deadringer: Deluxe

Portishead – Dummy

Massive Attack – Collected

DJ Shadow – Reconstructed

FKA Twigs – LP1

The XX – XX

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