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Why You Should Sleep Naked

by zfortadminin Sex

Skin-to-skin contact can lower your blood pressure, decrease stress levels and really just make you happier. 

Only about 8 percent of Americans doze off in their birthday suits, but many more should consider going to bed in the buff. In addition to not having to launder any jammies or crank up the A/C, there are some major, healthy benefits to snoozing au naturel:

You’ll sleep better.

The body is wired to drop its temperature during shut-eye, and the process is necessary for quality sleep. Fuzzy pajamas can keep the body too warm, preventing you from achieving an optimal temperature. This can lead to tossing, turning and restlessness. Your skin works naturally with the rest of the body to cool down so you can drift off, and cozy clothes just make it harder for the body to do its job.

The skin-to-skin contact will relax you.

If you share a bed with your partner, the two of you can benefit from resting unrobed. Skin-to-skin contact can lower your blood pressure, decrease stress levels and really just make you happier.

You might even fall harder for your partner.

A 2014 poll that surveyed about 1,000 married British people found that naked sleepers were most content in their relationships. Fifty-seven percent of people who sleep naked reported feeling happy in their relationships, while only 48 percent who sleep in standard PJs reported the same. Just 15 percent of those who sleep in onesies said they were satisfied with their partner. Moral of this story? Burn your onesies.

Naked sleeping might also lead to having sex more often, which is great for your relationship, your immune system and your sleep quality. Bow chika wow wow.

You’ll get the chance to air out.

Sleeping in underpants creates a warm, moist environment for bacteria and yeast to thrive. Snoozing in your birthday suit reduces the risk for yeast infections, among other ailments.

Yes, sleeping naked is the new black. Just make sure to keep a robe nearby, because being caught naked on the street in the case of a late-night fire alarm isn’t totally en vogue.

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Intimate Cuddling Positions For Bonding With Your Man

by zfortadminin Sex

One of the best ways to bond with your man is snuggling. It releases the hormone oxytocin, your body’s love signal.

Physical contact is also a fun way to spend time together, and gives you lots of opportunity for pillow talk. The best cuddling positions are dependent on your mood and situation, but here are ten great options for day or night.

1. GETTING SPOONED

This cuddling position is one of the absolute best ways to spend super-close, super-snuggly time together. Spooning involves lying on your side in the same direction as your guy, and cuddling up with your rear up against his front just like in the picture above. Plus, most women are smaller than men, which means they fit perfectly into the contours of their favorite guy’s body.

This is an all-purpose position that doesn’t require a soft bed or couch, since you’re lying on your side, so it works well for picnics in the park, camping, and other outdoorsy moments.

2. SPOONING YOUR MAN

Of course, you can also reverse this cuddling position. Men like to feel cared for and protected too, so give your guy those feelings he craves by wrapping your arms around him and cuddling up to his back. This is a perfect way to incorporate a backrub too, which is sure to up your guy’s love for you. Or reach around and grab his hands for total entwinement.

3. LYING ON HIS STOMACH

We tend to think of cuddling as an after-sex activity, but some cozy snuggles can also get things going, and lying on your guy’s stomach is one of the best cuddling positions for this. When he’s on his back, turn over and lay partially on him, with your head on his chest and your torso on his torso.

This is a perfect arrangement for lying and talking for hours or slowly moving toward something sexier. For extra steaminess, start in this cuddling position with your clothes on and slowly take them off, piece by piece.

4. LYING ON TOP OF HIM

This position for cuddling requires some serious commitment, because you have to climb all the way on top of your man. Therefore it probably isn’t the best bet if you guys aren’t lying on something comfortable, but either way, it’s bound to be cozy for you! Have him spread his legs a bit so you can fit one of yours between his for extra closeness. It’s also the perfect position to start the Man Missionary position from.

5. SITTING IN HIS LAP

This position for cuddling is excellent for watching a movie, eating snacks, chilling out or watching the sun set. Because it’s far more appropriate than most of the lying-down positions, you don’t need to worry about keeping it ‘clean’ for your grandmother or little brothers. That makes it a good way to stay close even on a busy day or when there are lots of people around, which is good, because on these days you both often need an extra hit of love and TLC.

It’s also perfect for moving into something like the Back Seat Driver sex position.

6. LYING UNDERNEATH HIM

Of course, this is another of those cuddling positions that bears a large resemblance to sexy times, but it doesn’t have to result in amorous activities like the good old fashioned Missionary position. Lying underneath your guy is a great way to feel close to one another and to lay face to face, or can offer great opportunities for a little low-stakes making out that goes nowhere…perfect for a quiet evening in.

7. SNUGGLING FACE TO FACE

One of the coziest cuddling positions for talking, snuggling face to face offers you lots of opportunity to gaze lovingly at your man. Simply turn toward each other in the bed or even on a couch, holding hands or putting your arms around each other like in the Lotus position. If you like, you can even curl your legs up into a fetal position and he can bend his body around you for even more closeness.

What’s not to like?

But keep in mind that during the day, this position offers lots of opportunity for your guy to notice your hair and face, so it may not be the best approach after a late night or when your mascara needs washing off.

8. HOLDING HANDS WHILE LYING ON YOUR STOMACHS

This cuddling position gives you both a little more freedom of movement. Simply lie down on your tummies and reach into the shared space (which some of us think of as “the neutral zone”) to hold hands. This is perfect for slowly falling asleep with some contact, or for talking till dawn. More of a back sleeper? No problem … this works equally well for those that prefer to lay on their bums, and can even be adapted so that one member of the couple lies one way and one lies the other.

9. INTERTWINING YOUR LEGS

If you enjoy snuggled up legs, you might like a cuddling position that leaves your torsos and arms free to do what they like and entwines your legs together. This position can work with you facing each other, with one of you spooning the other, or with both of you on your stomachs or backs. Simply entangle your legs, wrapping yours around his and playing footsie if you get the opportunity!

10. CUDDLING BACK TO BACK

A great cuddling position for falling asleep, snuggling up back to back allows you to feel your guy’s warmth and appreciate his proximity without having to do much. It’s best for cozying up under warm blankets as you drift off and gaze out the window or enjoy a little late-night pillow talk. You can even reach behind you and grab a hand.

Working on your relationship can take many forms, but one of the easiest and most enjoyable ways to do it is simply to snuggle up. Take every opportunity you can to get close to your man in the living room, out in public, and especially in the bedroom. You’ll be glad you did!

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Better Sex as a Fit Woman

by zfortadminin Sex

Are you fit enough for a better sex?

Over the past few years, researchers have made some important discoveries about the body and brain connections of sex and exercise. “Being physically active seems to be a potent aphrodisiac for women,” says Tina M. Penhollow, Ph.D., an associate professor of health promotion at Florida Atlantic University, who has published research on how exercise affects sexual self-esteem.

Passionate Couple In Bed…BOOSTS FOCUS

All too common: He’s kissing your neck, but you’re thinking about that major work deadline. Exercise can help sync your mind to your body, as well as quiet your racing brain so you can focus on the task at hand, says Lori Brotto, Ph.D., director of the Sexual Health Laboratory at the University of British Columbia in Canada.

…ACCELERATES AROUSAL

Studies have shown that women who frequently exercise become aroused more quickly and are able to orgasm faster and more intensely. University of Texas at Austin researchers found that female study participants were 169 percent more aroused (as indicated by blood flow in genital tissue) while watching a short porn flick after 20 minutes of vigorous cycling than when they watched it without riding beforehand. When you get excited, blood surges into the clitoral bulbs, making the entire region around the vagina responsive to pleasure. Cardiovascular exercise can help blood pump faster to the right parts of your body; it can also reduce chronic inflammation, which can damage blood vessels and decrease circulation, putting a damper on your sexual bliss.

…BUILDS STRONGER PIPES

A healthy pair of lungs helps express your elation with more gusto, of course, but you’ll have a lot more to scream about if you learn to control your breath. Partners who breathe in tandem may create a bigger buildup, which can intensify pleasure. And women who take short, quick breaths as they reach climax—rather than holding their breath—may reduce carbon dioxide in the blood, possibly intensifying vaginal contractions. Yoga can help women focus on their breathing, while high-intensity interval training increases lung capacity—which ensures you’ll be vocalizing your gratification through the grand finale.

…REVS UP YOUR LIBIDO

During a single strength workout, your body produces higher levels of growth hormone and testosterone, hormones that play a pivotal role in muscle growth–and sex drive. A 2013 study found that hitting the weight room regularly (three days a week) keeps levels of these hormones higher. That, along with the stress-busting benefits of pumping iron, can stoke greater sexual desire, says Kim Chronister, Psy.D., author of The Psychology Behind Fitness Motivation.

…ENHANCES IN-THE-SACK ENDURANCE

Some women can take 12 minutes—or longer—to orgasm. If your body fizzles out prior to that, you may be missing out, says sex therapist Denise Onofrey. Regular physical activity improves stamina and trains your muscles to hold out longer by using energy more efficiently. The result? You won’t have to pause prematurely to give your aching arms or tired legs a break during your next epic sex session.

…GETS YOU FEELING SEXIER

Exercise transforms the way you view your body—and how you enjoy sex. Penhollow found that women who exercised frequently and reported higher levels of personal fitness were more likely to rate their desirability and sexual performance high above average. But it’s not necessarily because of a slim physique. Researchers found that women of all sizes who reported greater body appreciation (for their physical abilities, such as progress in the weight room) were more easily aroused, enjoyed sex more, and had more orgasms.

…LIGHTENS YOUR MOOD

Even feeling just a little down in the dumps can weaken desire, says Chronister. Exercise leads to an immediate rush of mood-lifting, stress-dissolving endorphins; it’s such a potent anti-depressant that some research suggests regular workouts are as effective as psychiatric medications.

…HELPS SHED INHIBITIONS

Some women get seriously distracted–even totally turned off–when their partner touches one of their less-than-favorite body parts mid-romp. A consistent workout routine can help: When Italian researchers put a small group of obese women with sexual complaints in a supervised weight-loss program (that included diet and about 10 hours of low-intensity exercise per week), they not only lost an average of 35 pounds but also reported higher levels of lubrication and sexual frequency after 16 weeks. Study authors note that weight loss does more than improve body image: It also helps improve insulin resistance. Overweight women whose bodies can’t use the hormone to process glucose also tend to have lower levels of testosterone, which dampens self-confidence and sexual response.

…MAKES YOU MORE SENSITIVE

And we don’t mean crying during sex. The tissue that forms the clitoris contains 8,000 nerve fibers that extend into the entire pelvic region, including the vaginal walls. Researchers at the University of Texas at Austin found that physical activity was able to prime a woman’s body for sexual activity by making her more sensitive to touch and increasing the efficacy of stimuli, likely by revving up a network of neurons known as your sympathetic nervous system, which controls your arousal, says Brotto.

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Best Reasons to Hold Out (for Sex)

by zfortadminin Sex

The discussion about whether holding out is going to make a guy more interested in a serious relationship than he would be if you guys do the deed early–I’ll say that I agree with my guy friends.

My sense is that it doesn’t matter how long you wait to have sex.

Regardless, I recently decided I’m not going to have sex with any new guy until I’ve been dating him at least two months.

Why?

Well, I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum. I’ve waited too long to have sex–and I’ve done it too soon. Neither is so great.

As I think I’ve mentioned, I didn’t lose my virginity till I was TWENTY-EIGHT YEARS OLD–which is an example of waiting a little too long. I was waiting to find the one true love of my life, so I told myself. That kind of thing might work out well in certain Amish, Hasidic or Muslim communities, but I run with a crowd that is, dare I say, a little more hip than that. And if I had to do it all over again, I’d have gotten the whole virginity thing out of the way A LOT SOONER. Waiting for marriage does not seem terribly worth doing, to me.

After becoming de-virginized, I have waited different amounts of time to have sex, depending on the guy. For instance, I knew my pal Jake Stein for more than a year before we even started dating. On the other hand, I slept with another guy on our second date–not usually the way I roll. But it felt so right–and he was so willing to wait, and so sweet about doing whatever I wanted to do–that I didn’t question it at all. He and I agreed that night to stop seeing other people, and we went on to date for four months, which is close to a record amount of time for me.

However, very recently, I had a bad experience after having sex too early on–after dating a very mature 25-year-old guy for less than a month. Before we met, he’d made it perfectly clear that he wasn’t looking for a serious relationship; and after we met, he told me he’s planning on leaving New York once he finishes up grad school next year … whereas I have no plans to leave anytime soon. Regardless, I thought I could handle having a short-term thing with him (perhaps in part because I was so intoxicated by his ridiculously sexy body). So eventually, I decided, eh, what the hell, I’d give in to his demands! I’d go for it. So we did the deed a few times. But shortly thereafter, saying he wanted to save both of us the pain of getting more deeply involved in an affair that would have to end before long (huh?), he called it off. It felt very abrupt, and it was very painful for me.

So yes, I’ve decided to wait for two months. Here are all the arguments in favor of my decision:

1) Women (esp. me) have much stronger emotional reactions to sex than men do.

Studies have shown that the bonding hormone, oxytocin, gets released in both men and women when they’re touching, holding hands, kissing or snuggling. But oxytocin INCREASES in women after sex, while DECREASING in men, post-ejaculation. Interesting, right?Now, I’m the type of person who feels connected to my check-out guy at Trader Joe’s after a two-minute conversation about almond butter. And after having sex with someone–apparently due in part to all the oxytocin that is released–I feel amuch bigger connection to him. (Uh, no, I’ve never had sex with the Trader Joe’s dude.) By holding off while getting to know someone, I’ll save myself from additional pain if things don’t work out.

2) Holding out helps you protect your feelings.

I used to think I’d cut out all the “self-destructive” behavior in my life: After all, I quit using drugs, quit smoking and quit drinking (for the most part). I exercise all the time, eat as healthfully as I can, and am very careful about getting enough sleep. But after the experience with 25-year-old Mr. Heartthrob described above, I realize I can still be rather emotionally self-destructive. In the Heartthrob case, I hurled myself head first into a difficult situation, telling myself it will be worth it for the opportunity to get to know an interesting and very smart person who shares many of my interests–poetry, experimental music, fiction, theater, classic movies. (And for the opportunity to have hot hot sex with him!) I was thinking of only the pleasures. I wasn’t thinking of the pain, and the havoc the situation might wreck on my emotional stability.

3) Deciding on an a priori time frame helps you control your libido.

If I’d told myself I was going to hold off a full two months before getting horizontal with Mr. Heartthrob, it would’ve been easier to resist him. Instead, because I didn’t have a rule in mind, I let my sexual urges override my common sense.

4) Deciding on a priori time frame makes you feel (and seem) more in control of the situation.

That’s always nice, right?

5) Holding off can give you more clarity on the situation.

See points #2 and #4 above. When I start having sex with someone, a lot of what makes me crazy for him is simply the sex. I become a junkie! And that can make me lose sight of everything else.

6) Casual sex isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

Sometimes I think I should be living it up more–and thereby having more casual sex, in this post-Carrie Bradshaw era. But as I know from my experience with Mr. Heartthrob, the intoxicating nights of fun aren’t worth the subsequent psychological hangover. Ouch.

7) You have a very healthy relationship with your vibrator, don’t you? (You should.)

My battery-operated device gives me all the sexual pleasure I need … and then some. So it’s not like I’m in desperate need of an orgasmic fix. What’s more, most men don’t leave me feeling anywhere near as satisfied as my vibe does. (Although, of course, being with a human being–as opposed to a piece of plastic–has its own rewards.)

8) Is one more short-term relationship going to help you find a long-term relationship?

I think I’ve had my fill of short-term relationship experience. Now, I’m ready to wait till something more serious comes along.

9)When you do have sex with someone you’ve known for two months, it’ll probably be more awesome than it would’ve been otherwise.

Right?

So … that’s where I’m at.

Go ahead: tell me what you think. Call me crazy. Tell me I’m finally wising up. Lay it on me. Just don’t get laid on me before you’ve been dating two months–unless you know you’re all right with it.

xxx

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Sex with Robots?

by zfortadminin Sex

Will humans soon enjoy the option of having sex with robots? We discuss the technology behind this progressive idea, along with legal, moral and ethical implications. How will this humanlike-bot alter reality? Will relationships suffer as a result?

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Originally aired on October 6, 2015

Guests:

Emma Yann Zhang @yannc2021 (London, United Kingdom)
PhD Student, City University London

Neil McArthur @morallust (Winnipeg, Canada)
Associate Director, Centre for Professional and Applied Ethics, University of Manitoba

Kathleen Richardson (Cambridge, United Kingdom)
Director, Campaign Against Sex Robots; Senior Research Fellow in Ethics of Robotics, De Montfort University; Anthropologist

Matt McMullen @AbyssCreations (San Diego, CA)
Creator, RealDoll

Host:

Caitlyn Becker
@caitlynbecker

Featured image credit: Huffington Post

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Oxytocin-Based Sexual Connection

by zfortadminin Mind, Sex

So what’s the antidote?

These are all natural hormonal processes in our bodies. If we understand what’s happening on a biological level, we can teach ourselves to get into the sustainable flow of the love-giving, intimacy-enhancing hormone oxytocin, which doesn’t give us the rollercoaster side-effects of dopamine when that sense of bliss and euphoria subsides.

Dopamine vs. Oxytocin

love-your-brainKnown as the “bonding hormone”, oxytocin plays an important role in the neuroanatomy of wellbeing and intimacy. It is associated with various behaviors, including pair bonding and parental behaviors. For that reason, it’s not surprising that both men and women release significantly more oxytocin when they have a baby, because they both need to be a lot more stable and engaged to raise the baby. Obviously, going out, making new romantic connections and looking for the biological thrill of new partners wouldn’t create a secure environment for the baby to thrive. Oxytocin helps to create the bond of love at a biological level.

Dopamine is the culprit when it comes to addictive behavior. The release of dopamine is short lived but it feels so good that we often feel compelled chase the feeling. It also tends to function by the laws of diminishing returns – the more we have it, the less impactful or satiating the results. Any perceived scarcity of the dopamine-giving object or experience can create feelings of fear and stress, and so we set out to engage in behaviors that fulfill our cravings. Of course, we can get addicted to anything that gives us that high, be it pharmaceutical or hormonal.

In my experience, when the dopamine cycle takes control, we can feel addicted to many different stimuli, e.g. sex, food, alcohol or drugs, or it could be a 21st century addiction like Facebook, internet porn or TV. Before we know, it can us turn into dopamine junkies. We live in a state of constant anxiety, nervousness, feelings of scarcity, and the sense that something vital piece is missing from our lives — and yet somehow is always unattainable. We become distracted, with that recurring (addictive) impulse always at the back of our minds.

But there is a solution to this all-pervasive dopamine addiction, and like most sustainable solutions, it happens to be “substitution” — finding something else that can sustainably fill the void we are trying to fill with our addictive behavior. In the case of dopamine addiction, oxytocin, which is the hormone of love, connection, safety and bliss, counteracts the fear and stress created by the cycle of dopamine spike and drops. So it’s a matter of disengaging the body from a dopamine addiction by learning to trigger oxytocin instead.

Oxytocin Substitution

In my experience working with people on this very problem over the years, I have come to realize that the subconscious mind feels a lot more ease to trade in a lower vibrational drug to a higher vibrational drug. Adopting the mindset of “going cold turkey” activates the potent powers of the dopamine receptors and this biological scarcity creates a sensation in us that leads to cravings.make love

When you give up something, e.g. alcohol, meat, or change the way you were having sex from a very aggressive way of chasing dopamine to a sweet loving, connected form of sex which triggers oxytocin, there’s always an adjustment period. When I stopped eating meat, for example, it was uncomfortable for a while. I was addicted to it, I really wanted to eat it, and there was a taste, a flavor, a feeling that I used to get from it, which was extremely addictive. I would eat a vegetarian meal and not feel satiation. On a biological level, my body wasn’t just missing the nutrition, it was missing the reward hormone (dopamine) that came with it.

However, when we learn to substitute dopamine behaviors for oxytocin behaviors, and become “addicted” instead to oxytocin, we start looking for a more sustainable “high” — like intimate bonding and spiritual love. The same when you switch to more loving, softer, oxytocin connections and sex – instead of having a rapid release, the body learns to feel satiated with a slow release. It’s like a slow simmer or a slow burn, rather than like a full release all at once, which takes us away from the hormonal rollercoaster of dopamine. It’s a process of retraining ourselves to become “addicted” to subtler, more sustainable vibration, and to a hormone that we have easier access to. As a result, prolactin, which is the hormone of satiation, will then reprogram its circuitry, triggering instead when you behave in a more oxytocin-generating way.

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Shower Sex Positions

by zfortadminin Sex

Let’s face it. Shower sex is as easy as fitting a king sized bed in a New York City apartment. Unless your shower is the size of a walk in closet, your options are limited. 

Here are four positions that can make shower sex more fun.

1. Manos en la Pared (Hands on the Wall)

Stand up straight with your hands against the wall and legs spread slightly. Your man will enter you from behind. Tip: Be sure to aim your shower head as downward as possible so the water isn’t hitting you guys directly in the face. That can be distracting and things will get really wet — not in a good way.

2. Afeitado? (Shaving?)

Know how you lift your leg up and set it at the edge of the tub to shave? That’s an awesome sex position (tried and true, just saying)! Just make sure you have something to grip on. You don’t want to fall out and get a head injury or something.

3. La Silla (The Seat)

This one always works and you don’t risk busting your ass in a slippery bath tub. Have him sit down with his legs stretched out or slightly bent at the knee if he’s tall. Straddle him and go to town. The water hitting your back lightly will feel extra good.

4. Hacia Arriba (Straight Up)

Stand up straight with your back against the wall, lift one leg up and wrap it around his lower back. Tip: It will be easier for him to have full control if he presses his hands against the wall you’re leaning on.

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Can You Achieve Multiple Orgasms?

by zfortadminin Sex

Let Him Lavish You

Your man wants nothing more than to see you orgasm one or twice (don’t worry, he’ll catch up!). “Most lovers are generous and willing and take pleasure in seeing their women enjoy more than one orgasm—but many women have a hard time receiving so much attention and letting the erotic focus be on their own pleasure,” says Rose. If you want to experience the thrills, give yourself permission to be the star of the sexual experience. If you have any worries like “I’m taking too long” or “He must be getting bored down there,” then no amount of great stimulation will help.

Help Him with Hand Work

“For most women, your partner’s hands and mouth are the best tools for helping you peak, so make sure he knows how to use them,” Rose says. Show him exactly how you like to be touched—and then let him explore. “A lot of women love the combination of oral sex with a few fingers inside. This works for good reason, as this combination allows him to turn on both the external clitoris and it’s internal roots,” Rose suggests. Move his hands to where you touch yourself, and give him audible feedback on what is working for you—right up until you reach your first peak.

Take a Breath

“After your first orgasm, take a moment or two to savor the afterglow before you start building arousal back up again. Your next orgasm might be mere minutes away,” Rose says. Focus on your breathing: “When people get sexually excited, they tend to hold the breath or breathe really shallow,” Anami says. “The more you can practice deep, steady breathing, you’ll relax, stay in the present moment, and also increase the power and pleasure of your orgasm.”

Turn to Orgasmic Intercourse

Once he is inside, keep up the clitoral stimulation, Rose suggests. She’s on to something: The majority of women worldwide don’t orgasm from penetrative sex alone, but instead can only climax from clitoral stimulation, reports a study in the journal Clinical Anatomy. “For most women, this is how they can get to full (and multiple) orgasms during intercourse,” she adds.

Keep the Connection

The deeper vaginal orgasms are all about a very deep state of release and letting go. Feeling like you’re on the same wavelength as your partner can help. “Maintaining eye contact with him is intense, but this forces you to be more vulnerable and open, which is key to these deeper orgasmic experiences,” Anami explains.

And once you reach your second, the doors are wide open: “if you can have two, you can have three, four, or more! There is no limit on how many orgasms a woman can experience,” Rose says. If it doesn’t happen the first time, don’t worry—practicing is something you and your partner can both enjoy.

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PlayBoy… Full Female Nudity Over

by zfortadminin Sex

More left breast! I need more left breast!

– Photographer during a Playboy centerfold shoot

I recall meeting the young woman at the Playboy Mansion for a pre-shoot interview. I pulled up to the massive gates of Hef’s Holmby Hills mansion and felt like an idiot announcing my presence to a giant rock.

The gates swung open, I drove up to the circular driveway in front of the mansion and, to my shock, there were kiddie toys all over the place, including a swing hanging from one of the big trees. (Another Playboy memory: When Hefner, then 63, announced he was marrying 26-year-old Kimberly Conrad in 1990, People magazine put him on the cover. The subheadline: “Next week: Hell Freezes Over.”)

I visited with the playmate in a guest cottage near the mansion. It seemed like a very luxurious prison. She wasn’t allowed to come and go as she pleased, or have guests.

So how hot was the centerfold shoot?

Well, honestly, watching something like that is about the least sexy activity on the planet.

We were in a studio on Sunset Boulevard, at the Playboy offices, I believe. The theme of the shoot was nautical. Well, naughty-cal.

The playmate — and I am sorry, I don’t remember her name because I can’t find the story online and all my old clips are in storage — was pretty. She had assuredly come by her impressive assets in a plastic surgery suite somewhere, though she denied it.

I remember standing behind her at one point, and she looked like a Potemkin Village sexpot. All her hair had been brushed forward past her ears to make it look fuller. The back of her head, which had a full part running down the middle, was full of bobby pins to keep her unluscious locks in place. From the front, though, her hair looked pretty good.

She sat for several hours, uncomfortably, on some sort of box, as the photographer yelled sexy little nothings: “More left breast! I need more left breast!”

At one point, I recall, she grew faint from hunger, but pressed on. I would love to know what became of her.

Corey Jones, Playboy’s chief content officer told the New York Times that he’s not sure whether the centerfold will still be part of the new magazine when it debuts in March. Women will still be featured in provocative poses, he said, but perhaps not fully naked. He’s trying to appeal to a younger audience that simply doesn’t need to turn a magazine sideways to get revved up.

A Playboy centerfold just doesn’t have the same sexual zing in an era when every iteration of erotica and porn is an iPhone tap away. What was once subversive has now become commonplace. That, to me anyway, is a definition of boring.

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Erotic Intimacy and Tantra

by zfortadminin Mind, Sex

photo from sacredmatrix.comWhat is Tantra?

Tantric sex taps into the erotic energy between two people, no matter what level of sexual experience.

Building this energy is the key to more powerful and longer orgasmic experiences. Practiced routinely, this erotic energy aligns with the other facets of life, including our relationship, more joy, spiritual expansion and intimacy.

Despite my confidence and feeling all big and indestructibly sexy, Carol King Lioness and all, I felt an underlying insecurity. I hadn’t ever practiced Tantric sex—It’s not like being a teenager and practicing your tongue technique by kissing your forearm or working your tongue action in the mirror. On the flight home, I started to consider the fact that I’d be taking a slight risk trying Tantric sex.

Risk can be a good thing.

It’s refreshing and energizing but, in terms of this feeling of insecurity, I couldn’t help Spike Lee’s movie Girl 6coming to mind. It’s based on the life of a phone sex operator. Girl 6 flawlessly rolls with each caller’s desires. In each scene, she gives erotic directions, chats her listener into a heightened state of sexual bliss, leaving them wanton and orgasmic. I on the other hand, although able to write my emotions, have a very hard time talking a man into any kind of steamy scenario.

I lived in my head.

I’m like Woody Allen to Girl 6’s Hustler: neurotic and tongue-tied.

My sexual creativity just doesn’t roll that way and I’ve accepted this to a certain degree. With practice, I’m sure I could gain some higher skill level but the emotional risk to venture there is terrifying.

Besides, there are well known sexual differences between men and women.

It is commonly accepted that men’s arousal levels are processed through visual stimulation. Women, on the other hand, are more emotionally receptive. With this in mind, I had a shudder of anxiety—what I feel will be a home run in the sexy department might be a real turn off for my partner.

Taking any kind of risk with a sexual partner can be psychologically daunting because it isn’t just a physical intimacy issue; it’s an emotional risk as well. All the information in the world wasn’t going to lessen that small insecurity of baring my naked soul, vulnerability and exposure I felt over putting my Tantric Lion self out there—no matter how long we’d been married.

I decided to push past my insecurity and be brave.

The sexy bug bit me through all my reading on Tantra and I decided it was worth it to challenge myself. I was glad I did. After I got back home, it was like a whole new playing field. There were some big successes and a few minor pitfalls.

First, let me share this cautionary warning if you read Urban Tantra. When it comes to (Photo: Odd Sock)the Twist and Shout, a stroke for pleasuring men, take the teenager route and try a few times on a banana to gauge your strength and grip before working it on your man.

I’m serious, she doesn’t call it theTwist and Shout for nothing.

Another thing I’ve learned from my adventures in Tantric Sex is this: start slow. Beginning anything new takes practice so wade in gently. Try a few techniques—what I call ‘risky exposure.’ If successful, if your partner is open to trying more, take it a step further.

Over all, tantric sex, with its erotic energy surely can replace the more rigorous method of abstinence to induce the alchemy of spiritual energy and instant manifestation.

With a willing and honest partner it can become a practice much like yoga that opens up the heart and infuses it with a warm liquid heat of eroticism fueling deeper passion and connection to the inner-self. Tantra brings with it new meaning to the word fulfillment.

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Does This Smell Good to You? Hawaiian Mushroom That Makes Women Orgasm

by zfortadminin Sex

I have good news and bad news. Let’s start with the good news:

Scientists have discovered an orange mushroom in recent Hawaiian lava flows that can induce instantaneous orgasms in women just from the odor it gives off. That’s right, fellas. You can get your girl to bust nuts all over the place just by having her sniff this thing.

This orgasm triggered by fungus, or “fungasm,” is due in part from hormones in the mushroom that are close in similarity to the same ones picked up by our own neurotransmitters. Basically, the smell of this shroom makes the female body think it’s having sex. Imagine walking into a sorority house with your pockets filled with these mushrooms.

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Take your time, I’ll wait. Really let your mind paint that picture, and enjoy it while you can. Because here comes the bad news:

The orange mushroom smells orgasmic to women and literally caused nearly half of the volunteers for the study to climax. Unfortunately, it smells like week old horse shit to men. In the International Journal of Medicinal Mushrooms, the discoverers of the orange fungus, John C. Holliday and Noah Soule, concluded that all the male test subjects were repulsed by the fetid smell.

So if you’re bad in bed and need a little bit of help, go find these mushrooms and hide a bunch of them under your bed. Then grab a clothes pin for yourself. Thank me later.

Curated by Erbe
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Photo Credit: Deviant Art

The Other Virginity: To Be or Not to Be

by Susanna Leein Sex

We broke up, and the next year, I got married to a man I’d known for 3 months. During our brief courtship, we never talked about anal sex, he never suggested it, and I never brought it up.  After the wedding, I presented him with my gift.  I told him that I loved him and wanted to give him something special, that no one else had ever had, to celebrate our bond.  He was decidedly less excited about this than I thought he’d be.  Have you ever given someone a present that you really put some effort into, only to watch them open it, feign excitement, then set it aside to forget about later?  That was how he reacted to my virginal offering.  About a year into the marriage, I brought it up again.  He somewhat acquiesced, unenthusiastically inserting just the tip, and sighing as though he was bored with the whole thing.  It hurt both my body and my feelings, so we stopped there and I never brought it up again.

As I’ve mentioned in previous writing, I didn’t behave very respectfully once I’d given up on a happy marriage.  So one night, during the final months of it, I tried to make a friend-of-a-friend “go Greek” with me, only he didn’t want to either.  The repeated rejection made my “special gift” seem like a curse that I became obsessed with getting rid of ASAP.  Once I was single again, I hooked up with a random audience member after a show.  The details were perfect, it was as random as could be.  He lived many states away from me, we hadn’t exchanged last names, if things went poorly or embarrassingly, I’d never have to see this guy again.  He even had a small penis, which I thought was the universe’s way of giving me the go-ahead.  So I made the offer, and WAS REJECTED AGAIN.  He said he wasn’t into it, but then tried to appease my desires by jamming in a finger, complete with untrimmed nails.  He scratched up a very sensitive area, and I decided to give up on my quest.  I shelved it, regretting that I’d forced the issue to the point of injury, and resigning myself to the dramatic idea that this form of lovemaking just wasn’t in the cards for me this lifetime.

Recently though, I’ve been seeing someone who I really like, and more importantly, I really trust.  The subject of anal sex has come up, at his initiation, and I don’t want to get prematurely excited, but it feels like this could be the one.  I felt secure talking about it with him, he listened and laughed with me, not at me, as I told him about my trials and tribulations.  I think that because I was willing to let go of the mission to lose it, willing to let go of the meaning I attached to it, I may have found a person with whom I can comfortably explore this avenue.  Fingers (with well-trimmed nails) crossed, anyway…

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Call it Secondary Sex

by zfortadminin Sex

The photographer and I had sex twice, in one evening. It was everything television and film tells me sex should be: Spontaneous. Unhesitating. In an exotic (read: not domestic) location.

It was on a wooden bench swing near a river in the trees behind the barn. And then it was in the barn, in the summer heat and humidity.

Afterward, we walked hand in hand down the main road leading to town, giggling while we watched the fireflies appear and disappear around us in the fading daylight. It was romance and whirlwind. It was sweat and sweet.

That last morning in Kentucky, I woke at 6 a.m. to the soft sound of rain and the tinny sound of Bon Iver floating from his cellphone speakers.

He photographed me while I packed my clothes, and I remember him telling me that airports are romantic because they’re where people come to understand what they feel about each other.

It’s not that I haven’t wanted to have sex since then. It wasn’t one of those bowl-you-over summer romances. It was what it was. Fun. Invigorating. Kind. But we lived 3,000 miles apart, and I was still heartbroken from my previous relationship.

If I were to update the definition of “secondary abstaining” I discovered through my Google search, I would add the following to the list of reasons someone may stop having sex: failed relationship, broken heart and being cheated on after a near proposal by the man you spent your whole life loving.

Maybe this is where faith comes in. Maybe my secondary abstinence isn’t in allegiance to God but to my own broken heart and the fear that seems to produce a kind of magnetic repellant whenever I come close to someone I desire.

My friends don’t seem to understand my secondary abstinence. They ask if I’ve had sex yet.

“How can you go so long?” they ask. “I can’t imagine.”

They say: “You have to lower your standards.” “Go to the bar more.” “Join a dating website.” “Make really good eye contact.” “Get rid of your hang-ups.” “Be more open.” “Stop being afraid.”

“It’s just sex,” they say. “You have to stop refusing to sleep with people just because you don’t immediately want to marry them.”

My secondary abstinence is the wallflower type: sitting quietly on the couch at the party making everyone else feel a bit more awkward for having a good time.

Every night that I go to a concert or a party, every day that I walk around the neighborhood, I find my secondary abstinence trailing me like a sad ghost or an unwanted dog.

It’s not as if I haven’t tried to move on from this phase of my life. I joined Tinder. I sat in my friend’s apartment, punctuating our conversation with questions like, “Who is supposed to write to whom on this thing?” and “Why do so many guys have photos with tigers? Do you have a photo with a tiger?”

I asked my friend how to tactfully respond to my most recent Tinder message from a man named Dakota who teaches yoga and doesn’t have a tiger in his photo. I found the profile of a man whose name is probably Matt and told him I’m new to this Tinder thing and asked him how it works.

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10 Sheet Grabbing Foreplays

by zfortadminin Sex

4. For his ears only

When it comes to stimulating your guy, sometimes you too can forget that it’s not just about the obvious areas. Dr. Pam suggests you move your attentions elsewhere…

“A much neglected erogenous zone for him is behind the ears and the earlobes. Create new sensations for him by stroking this area with your fingertips as you kiss.

Better yet if you have long nails gently scratch and tickle behind his ears. Now trace a line with your tongue around his ear lobe, and if you feel like it, start whispering the beginning of a hot fantasy into his ear.” Trust us, he’ll be up for anything after hearing it.

5. Experiment with new sensations

The trick to fiery foreplay is playing with hot and cold sensations.

Sex and Relationships Expert and columnist for GQ, Christina Wellor says, “An icy tongue on the tip of his penis or a hot mouth enveloping it, will make a blow job even more mind blowing than usual.”

Samantha recommends adding some food to the mix too. “Smear chocolate cake onto your partner’s face or blob cream on their nose. Relish licking cream or honey from his penis, just like a lollipop! Dollop some jam or chocolate spread on his nipples and listen to him squeal with pleasure as you slowly suck it off.” You’ll never think of food in the same way again.

6. Control it

Couples often find comfort in familiar things but it’s so important to try mixing it up from time to time. Try a new sex toy, or better yet, try a sex toy with a remote control.

Samantha says, “There are several remote control sex toys that you can wear to get your juices flowing, so why not try a We-Vibe Plus 4 and let your man take control of the remote. Slip it in before going to dinner (or even to the cinema) and let your man take control of your sexual pleasure”.

The element of surprise will catch them you off guard and heighten your levels of sensory experience and excitement.

7. Oral Sex for him

Sex and Relationship expert Rachael McCoy spills her sexiest secret for mind blowing oral sex for your man.
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“The key to this is teasing! Don’t go straight in for the goodies. Get on your knees looking provocatively into your partners eyes, part his legs and slowly lick his inner thighs in long, soft stroking motions.

Blow over the area that you’ve just licked to create a different sensation and then lay soft, warm kisses getting closer and closer towards his naughty bits. Use your hands to run over his chest, abdomen and thighs using firm pressure. The contrast of firm and light pressure will have him just about ready to explode waiting for you to get your mouth around him.”

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