11. You need to get to sleep. Having trouble sleeping? Have some sex first. It might take a little longer than brewing some chamomile tea (well, hopefully it does), but studies show that sex right before bed can allow for deeper, more restful sleep.

12. You’re horny. There is no better reason to have sex than just being super horny. Follow your heart, or I guess in this case, your genitals.

13. Your hair is so flat and dull right now. Sex can actually help your skin, nails, and hair, so think of it like a free blowout without someone aggressively massaging your scalp (and also, you orgasm).

14. There’s nothing on TV and now you have no idea what to do with your evening. Is it finally that time of year when you don’t feel like you have to watch everything on TV before it gets ruined on Twitter? Can you even remember the last time you didn’t rush through sex so you could watchScandal before that one Facebook friend could post about it? Take some time and remember what it feels like to have sex when it’s not primetime season.

15. It’s a great way to get some bonding time in. Having sex generates oxytocin, a chemical that promotes that warm and fuzzy love feeling. So if you’re annoyed at your partner for not unloading the dishwasher, sex will help you get over it fast.

16. Your heat is broken. Work up a sweat and then cuddle afterward. What do you think people did all the time before the invention of central air?

17. You really need a win. If things haven’t been going your way lately, some good sex is a nice little checkmark in your “wins” column.

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Slippery Sex

This last one is a particularly fun sex game to play with your man. There is something incredibly horny, hot and arousing about having sex when you are both hot, sweating and sliding all over each other. It feels more primal and naughty. For some, the best way to achieve this is by having sex in a steam room or sauna. But that’s not a possibility for everyone. And besides, you can’t really lie down when you’re in a sauna or steam room.

An awesome way to replicate the sweaty fun of a steam room or sauna while enjoying the comfort your own bed is to use a natural oil like coconut oil and cover both yourself and your man from neck to toe in it. Also make sure that the heat in your room is turned up quite high too, so that both of you are sweating quite a lot.

Feeling your bodies easily slide over each other during sex is incredibly hot and can make for some really passionate, animalistic sex. In a way, this is not so much a fun sex game, but more of an incredibly way to have great sex.

The ‘Try Not To Have’ Sex Game

By far the hottest sex game I know or have heard of is called the ‘Try Not To Have Sex Game’. It sounds a little weird when you first hear it and it’s certainly counterintuitive, but the fact is that it’s super powerful at building sexual tension and literally making you want to rip each others clothes off.

To play the game, you are not allowed to have sex…but that’s not actually a ton of fun. The way to make it fun is to try and entice your partner into initiating sex with you, while he is doing the exact same thing to you. The loser is the person who gives in and actually initiates sex. The winner is the partner who holds out the longest.

When you hear about the ‘Try Not To Have Sex Game’ first, it actually sounds stupid and kind of dull, but once you see how good it is at building sexual tension, anticipation and arousalthen you will understand just how much fun it is to play.

A great way to make it extra interesting is to each add $10 dollars to a jar for every day that you play it. The winner then gets to spend all this cash on an activity for both of you.

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There were 5 of us in the class, all in short skirts (the least cumbersome attire for what the class entailed).  We were to stand on folded beach towels, and I immediately had a fleeting fear that this was because the weight would somehow be too much, and the towel was there to catch my lady-organs when the jade egg pulled them out.  I shook it off, reassuring myself that because the host of the show was a celebrity’s cousin, a major cable network would never put someone so fame-adjacent in such danger, and since we would all be doing the same thing, I’d be safe too.

The creator of this method and class was a woman who reminded me of Amy Sedaris, and I immediately liked her.  She celebrated her vaginal strength without joking or apologizing.  She explained her theory, that to build strength, there needs to be some weight-bearing activity, not just the tighten/release of regular kegels, which made sense.  She told us a bit about the payoff, toned PC muscles leads to stronger orgasms, and more of them.  We were given our jade eggs, rainbow yarn, a small silk pouch, and instructed to tie one end of the yarn around the handles of the pouch, and the other through a hole in the middle of the egg.  Then came the insertion.  I’d never put an egg inside me, and it felt pretty intrusive, at first.  It wasn’t big, I’d had many partners of greater girth, but it was solid jade, which is a very different feeling than the consistency of a penis or sex toy.  It quickly became more comfortable, and we began adding weight.  To begin, we used small rocks, adding them one-by-one to the silk pouch.  My lifetime of kegels was paying off, I was able to put more rocks in my pouch than most of the other women.  I know it’s not a competition, but if it was, my pussy would’ve been up on the winner’s platform with at least a silver medal (USA! USA!).  Then, we graduated from rocks to larger things, but because of time constraints with the filming, we skipped ahead to the big guns: full, unopened Gatorade bottles.  Not the smallest size, the 32 ounce big boy.  I chose red to match my sweater.  Only myself and the show host were brave enough to give these a go, we tied them on, then gently released them to hang unassisted.  It was definitely hard, holding so much weight in this manner, it made me really respect women who give birth standing up (Princess Diana gave birth to William while standing).

I was really proud of myself, standing there, holding up a heavy bottle without my hands.  I had one of the PA’s take a picture, which I posted all over my social media platforms.  I was a tiny bit apprehensive to do this at first, fearing being laughed at, not with, because there’s a certain taboo involved when women showcase physical strength, and that increases exponentially when you throw in the sexuality factor.  I was pleasantly surprised when it received a hugely supportive response.  I guess I’m fortunate to know a ton of fantastic, progressive people.

We finished taping, and were given the eggs to take with us as gifts (each student gets a brand-new egg, of course).  Mine now sits on my coffee table, it’s a great conversation starter when people visit.  I’m very lucky to have had the opportunity to take this class, and I’d recommend it to anyone who could use a reminder of the power we hold between our legs.

For more info: http://kimanami.com/vaginal-kung-fu/

5. Touch affectionately without thinking sex is imminent.

Women often complain that their husbands never touch them unless they want sex. This turns them off. If, as the man, you are the more highly-sexed partner, it will serve you well to remember this about your wife. She might want you to hug, cuddle, hold hands, sit next to her on the couch, or kiss her in ways that are affectionate but not sexual. Lots of women say that men are incapable of hugging without their hands sliding slowly down their bodies. Since many women have a strong need for affection without sexual overtones, they get annoyed when every touch becomes a means of foreplay.

If this sounds familiar to you, try being affectionate and stop there. Your partner will appreciate it, and you. She might wonder what in the world is going on. And that’s exactly what you want to do—break out of old unproductive patterns. When you start doing the things that touch her soul, she will be more inclined to do the things that touch your body.

6. Masturbate.

Since your sex drives are so disparate, it’s unreasonable for you to expect your spouse to take care of each and every desire. You need to take responsibility for satisfying your own needs from time to time. In all likelihood, you are already doing this but you may be resentful about it. That’s not good or fair. Although your partner could try to meet you halfway, there will still be times when you are hot to trot and he or she isn’t. That’s normal; you need to accept it. As long as your spouse is making more of an effort to understand and care for your needs, you need to accept your differences and take care of yourself occasionally without feeling resentment.

7. Accept a gift of love.

Sometimes, as things improve and your spouse tries to be more caring about your needs, he or she might decide to become intimate with you even though sex might not be a burning desire. Rather than feeling insulted or put off, you should accept this as a gift of love. In good relationships, people do things for their spouses all the time that may not be exactly what they feel like doing at the moment. That’s more than okay—that’s real giving, when you give to your partner what he or she wants and needs whether or not you understand, like, or agree with it. Allow your spouse to show his or her love by being sexual even if it wasn’t his or her favorite thing to do at the moment. Accept the gift and appreciate it. Good marriages are built on this kind of caring.

8. Respect your spouse’s sexual prerequisites.

Here’s another really good suggestion from Dr. Pat Love: When a partner with low sexual desire tells his or her spouse about the conditions that need to be in place in order to engage in or enjoy sex, the higher-sexed spouse often does not understand or accept the requests at face value. For example, if a wife tells her husband that she prefers making love at night rather than in the morning, the husband might think she is just making up excuses. (For most men, testosterone peaks between 7 to 8 A.M.; women’s testosterone levels peak in the evening.) If a husband tells his wife that he feels more turned on after they take a shower or when the kids are asleep, she may think he is just putting things off so that sex never happens. But the truth is these may not just be excuses. You may have a hard time believing this because you are ready to go at the drop of a hat, but your spouse may really need things to be a certain way in order to feel relaxed, comfortable, and turned on. As much as possible, try to honor these requests and not discredit your partner when he or she confides in you about these conditions. Take them at face value, and try to create the kind of atmosphere that is most likely to be conducive to your partner desiring sex.

9. If all else fails, be brutally honest.

I’ve worked with countless couples in which one spouse was so dissatisfied with their sexual relationship that he or she eventually had an affair or left the marriage. You might be thinking of these alternatives too. An affair is a lousy solutions. Even if it satisfies you temporarily, it will only make things more difficult at home. Although an affair or separation sometimes serves as a wake-up call to the other spouse, you can’t always count on that.

Still, as the more highly-sexed person, you might be at the end of your rope. You might be fantasizing about someone else—or about packing your bags and leaving. Before you act, make sure your spouse knows in no uncertain terms the seriousness of the situation. Make certain he or she understands what will happen if nothing changes. Don’t threaten in the heat of an argument. Don’t blame or criticize. Just say calmly that because of the differences in your sexual appetites, you are so unhappy that you are considering doing something you really don’t want to. Spell out what you’ve been thinking about. Tell your partner that this is not a threat, but rather, that you are so desperate you don’t know what else to do. Ask your partner one more time to seek help. Then wait and see what happens.

Each partner in a relationship needs to take personal responsibility for making things better. When both of you make more of an effort to understand each other’s needs and feelings, you will undoubtedly feel closer and more connected emotionally and physically. And at the end of the day, isn’t that what healthy relationships are all about?

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3. Learn Some Awesome Sex Positions:

One of the things that I strongly believe in is the use of variation if your want to keep your man sexually satisfied in the bedroom. Everybody (both guys and girls) have certain things that turn them on way more than anything else. But if you focus solely on the same few things and use them over and over, you will inevitably end up getting bored of them. I strongly advocate that all my students should constantly try new things in the bedroom with their man and intersperse these new things with what already works well. That way you will slowly but steadily build up a large database of killer sex moves that are highly pleasurable to your man.

4. Learn How To Give Awesome Oral Sex:

If you are serious about learning how to satisfy your man sexually, then learning how to give fantastic, pleasurable blow jobs should be near the top of your list of priorities.

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Start To Command

One of the biggest hurdles to dominating your man is that he may feel emasculated. If this is the case, then he may try to rebel and try to regain control. The best way to prevent this is to take things slowly and build up your dominant behavior.

Start with giving him small verbal commands and asking him to do favors for you, “Would you mind taking out the trash?” or “Can you go and warm up the bed for me?” or “I want you to make me come first, before you do, okay?” All of these commands are things that are very hard for your man to object to, but they are perfect for laying the groundwork of being more dominant over him.

Once you have mastered using these subtle dominant commands over him, then it’s time to start slowly taking it up a gear and being more demanding of him, “I want to spend the weekend with you, don’t make any plans, okay?” or “I don’t want you wearing that football shirt anymore” or “From now on, you need to ask me for permission to come when we’re having sex.” If you find that it’s hard to get your man to comply with these more intense commands, then it’s best to reel them back a bit, before trying again.

Domination Games

Some of the example commands that I just gave you are quite intense and further than you wish to go with your man. If you are someone who really only wants to dominate your man in the bedroom, then try these domination games:

• Not A Sound: The next time you’re having sex with your man, tell him you want to play a game. Tell him you’re going to make him want to groan with pleasure, but that he isn’t allowed to make a sound. It’s an incredibly simple game to play, but a perfect way to start introducing the idea to him that you’re the one in control.
• Pin Him Down: Physically restraining your man is very hot. Now, I’m not actually talking about pinning his arms over his head with your arms, I’m talking about taking it a little further than that, tying his arms above his head. The best way to introduce this is to simply ask him if he would be interested in trying it out and then getting whatever restraints you need.

Surprising him with some rope and restraints is not such a good idea and can unnerve him, so remember that it’s always better to talk to him about it first.

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23. Act Out Your Favorite Sex Scene From A Movie
Get into character and re-create your favorite cinematic sex scene. Whether it’s Basic Instinct or a celebrity sex tape, discuss the scene with your partner and get ready for an Academy Award-winning performance.

24. Give Each Other Sensual Massages
Remember when one woman got a happy ending massage? This year, sales of couples’ massagers increased by 82 percent. Get with it and make your partner melt with an arousing rub down. Need some pointers?

24. Try Erotic Spanking
Why do people love kinky butt-smacking? Aside from the physical pleasure, Pleasure Mechanics explains some “love erotic spanking for the taboo thrill of it.” Here’s how to talk to your partner about whipping you into shape.

25. Personal Trainer Fantasy
Hate working out? Here’s a way to enjoy it. One of you is the personal trainer and the other is the obedient trainee. For Alison Z, it’s her go-to bedroom persona, “When he asks me to get on the ground and give him 20, I’d drop to my knees and give him something else … ”

26. Hot Mechanic Fantasy
For Brianna S, hooking up with the shirtless hottie covered in grease is her bedroom fantasy. “He would take me to the back seat and get to work under the hood of something else. Let’s just say by the time we’re done … the car repairs are on him.”

27. Sex On A Boat
Want to get it on out in the middle of the ocean? Well, I’m guessing you’re a Leonardo DiCaprio fan. But even if you’re not on Titanic-like ship or a Wolf Of Wall Street yacht, there’s still an opportunity to get down and dirty when you set sail. And you’re not the only one with the nautical fantasy. Match.com’s Singles In America survey revealed that 50 percent of singles hope to have sex on boats.

28. Use Feathers
Whether you choose to be tied up or not, have your partner tease you with the light touch of a feather.

29. Try Group Sex
Certainly not everyone’s fantasy but if you enjoy threesomes and are curious about bringing more partners into the bedroom, this might be one a thrilling and liberating ones to explore.

30. Hotel Maid Fantasy
Maybe it’s the allure of being on vacation but hotel sex is exciting and liberating, which may be why the maid fantasy is a hot one. Can’t make it to the hotel? With a sexy maid costume and knock from “housekeeping”, you can re-ignite the spark in no time.

What fantasy helped heat up your love life? Tell us in the comments below.

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The Dip Under His Ankle

Halfway between his heel and ankle bone is a fingertip-size pressure point that we’ve learned has enormous passion potential, explains Laura Norman, author of Feet First. “This spot is linked to the sex organs,” says Norman. “Pressing it releases energy, producing feelings of pleasure.”

Manhandle-him move: Do the deed in the reverse girl-on-top position, so you face his feet. As you sense your guy is getting close to climax, reach forward, grab his ankles and pulse each pressure point in rhythm with your thrusts. He’ll blow a gasket in seconds…and playing footsie will never be the same.

His Perineum

Most men are shy about guiding you to this patch of skin just past his family jewels. But beneath it is his prostate gland — an organ with major orgasmic power. “A few soft strokes here will bring him to the brink,” says Tracey Cox, author of Supersex.

Manhandle-him move: Before he enters you in the missionary position, reach between his legs and lightly tease his entire package. “When your hand is behind his testicles, press your knuckles gently into the smooth flesh,” says Cox. Your naughty kneading will bliss him out. Then, knock boots and knead him at the same time. When he’s ready to hit the roof, push your knuckles deeper — it’ll extend his orgasm, adds Cox.

His Shaft

Any nooky novice can make a man sweat by manipulating his entire love muscle. But carnal connoisseurs now know that one specific member-only move on a certain stretch of his little soldier is so scorching, it’ll set his desire on fire.

Manhandle-him move: Have your man lie on his back comfortably, then sit between his outstretched legs, facing him. Make two tight rings around his penis with the thumb and index finger of both your hands, placing the rings one on top of the other in the middle of his shaft. Slide the rings in opposite directions, going back and forth from the base to the head simultaneously. “This is a torrid twist on the usual one-handed up-and-down motion,” says Cox. “He’ll feel incredible friction, especially if you start off torturously slow, building up speed as he gets more and more pumped and then slowing down to keep him in a holding pattern.” To make this move even more mind-blowing, squirt some lubricant into your hand.

The Head of His Penis

With more pleasure receptors than any other part of his package, this tip of the amorous iceberg is the nexus of male sex nerves. But it’s tricky to get the right level of pressure so you send him soaring into ecstasy, not recoiling in sensory overload, says Barbara Keesling, PhD, author of The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl Sex.

Manhandle-him move: Try the “lipstick” trick: With your man lying back and his penis stiffly pointing skyward, hold the base with your fingers (not in a fist) to steady him. Brush your closed yet relaxed lips against his head, rubbing it across your wet mouth as if you were applying lipstick. “Heighten the sensation by opening your lips a bit, rubbing his head between them,” advises Keesling. Occasionally take the whole head in your mouth, then go back to rubbing the tip against your lips. He’ll feel like he’s getting a tighter, wetter version of nooky. Plus, he can watch you work him over — a toe-curling treat for him.

The Seam of His Testicles

You know that crinkly crease that separates his boys? Well, it turns out this seam has more passion-packing ability than we thought. “This nerve-rich pleasure trail runs top to bottom along his scrotum,” explains Cox. “It isn’t touched as often as it should be because not many women — or men — think of it as worthy of attention.”

Manhandle-him move: To steam up his seam, you have to take the initiative. But tread lightly, since the area is so sensitive. Cradle his family jewels in one hand, then gently press the first two fingertips of your other hand into the top of the crease (close to where the testicles connect to the base of the penis). Trace downward with both fingers until you reach the bottom of his scrotum. While still toying with his twins, run your fingers back up again. “The two types of in-sync stimulation will really rouse him,” says Cox. “He’ll never let you get away with overlooking this lusty line again.”

His Frenulum

The F Spot refers to that tiny knob of flesh underneath the crown of his penis, where the head connects to the shaft. Because it’s off the beaten passion path, it doesn’t get much amorous attention. But erotic experts and desire divas alike now consider it the booty bull’s-eye. “A bundle of nerves meet at this point, so when you touch it, you set off an amazing chain reaction of rapture,” says Britton.

Manhandle-him move: This frenulum-friendly maneuver will really flip his switch. While holding his penis steady at the base with one hand, slowly circle your tongue around the crown. Each time you reach his frenulum, give it a few fast flicks with just the stiff tip of your tongue, then return to licking the crown. At the same time, work your hand up and down his shaft. He’ll respond with a tsunami of moans and groans…followed by an out-of-this-world climax that’s liable to wake the neighbors.

• Hands-on. Use your fingertips to trace tiny circles in the center of his palm, then widen them out to the edges of his hand.
• Face trace. As the back of his head rests on a cushion, place two fingers on each temple, gently pressing both sides simultaneously.
• Back track. With his shirt off, knead the area where his butt meets his spine, pushing firmly into his flesh with each stroke.

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This is fascinating because you can now get even more creative with foreplay and sex. See, pressure—in this study, meant to mimic penetration—feels great on more than just your clitoris, so have your partner massage your breasts if it feels good to you, too. And knowing that the vaginal margin is most sensitive to lighter touch, have your partner use softer pressure during oral around this spot. Plus, feather-light touches on your forearm and neck? That’s foreplay you can do in public. Of course, the sample size of this study was pretty small, so feel free to explore your own body and see what moves give you goose bumps.

Ready to start experimenting? Before you head into uncharted territory, check out this map of your most sensitive spots. (Bonus: It contains a guide to male hot spots, too.) And once you’ve marked which ones you’d like to explore, use these tips to please every erogenous zone on your body. You’re welcome.

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