4. Make Eye Contact
Remarkably few people make sustained eye contact with each other during sex. It’s kind of funny if you think about it; you’re as physically close as two humans can be, yet you still can’t look each other in the eyes. Holding eye contact with your partner is one of the fastest paths to more intimacy. You may find yourself feeling surprisingly shy, so try gradually building up to longer periods of contact. Once you feel more confident, try keeping eye contact even as you orgasm!
5. Keep The Lights On
This is another quick but effective tip. Most people have sex at night, with all of the lights off, so they don’t have the opportunity to truly see each other while they’re being intimate. Try having sex in the daylight, or try keeping the lights on. Candles create a very nice glow, and you can easily modify the amount of light by adding more candles or blowing a few out.
See what it’s like to actually look at each other while you’re being intimate. Gaze at your partner’s entire body. In particular, letting your partner get a good look at your genitals while the lights are on can be insanely intimate.
6. Breathe Together
Take a cue from Tantric sex and try breathing together when you’re being intimate. Press pause on whatever you’re doing, and try to synchronize your breath for a few moments. Looking each other in the eyes will make this even more intense. Or try placing your hand over your partner’s heart and feel them breathe in and out.
7. Play With Power Dynamics
Power play is a broad umbrella term that basically entails one person being in charge and the other person ceding control. There are lots of different ways to do it, so do your research first and see what sounds most enticing to you.
The simplest thing you can do is say that one person is the boss for the evening, and the other person is at their mercy (make sure to talk about boundaries and agree on a safe-word first). Or you can try playing with bondage, which increases the intensity factor. Putting your safety in another person’s hands requires an incredible amount of trust. It’s a vulnerable experience that can build a lot of intimacy.